Love is a complex and multifaceted emotion that encompasses a range of feelings, attitudes, and behaviors. It can be experienced in various forms, including romantic love, familial love, platonic love, and self-love. Here are some key aspects of love:
It’s an interesting transformation. For years, there always seemed to be something to say about someone else. Someone to report. Someone to criticise. Someone to blame. Someone whose reputation needed to be questioned. Someone who, in their eyes, had done them wrong. Then, one day… Silence. The person who was once so visible becomes what… Read More The Invisible Man
Sometimes, the greatest insight doesn’t come from what someone says to your face. It comes from what they write when they think no one is looking. Imagine opening an old backup drive and finding letter after letter. Some had been sent. Others had never left the page. As you read them, a pattern begins to… Read More The Letters That Told Their Own Story
At the beginning of the relationship, I listened with sympathy. I heard endless stories about the previous partner. According to them, she was the problem. She was “crazy.” She was violent. She stole from him. She hit him. She tried to force him out of the house. She was unintelligent. She was lazy. She was… Read More Looking Back, I Realise They Were Stories
One of the biggest mistakes people make in a new relationship is focusing only on how someone treats them. In the early stages, many people are on their best behaviour. Instead, widen the lens. Look at the quality of their relationships with the people who have known them the longest. While no single factor proves someone… Read More Look Beyond How They Treat You—Look at How They Live
One of the questions I am asked most often is: “How can I spot an abuser before I become emotionally invested?” The truth is that many abusive people do not reveal who they really are on the first date. If they did, very few people would choose to continue the relationship. Instead, abuse often begins… Read More Can You Recognise an Abuser Before You Enter a Relationship?
There seems to be a fascinating species that appears whenever accountability comes knocking. Meet The Joker. Not the one from the movies—the one who performs astonishing mental gymnastics to convince everyone they’re the innocent victim while leaving a trail of emotional destruction behind them. According to The Joker, they have never lied, never manipulated, never shouted,… Read More The Joker’s Guide to Looking Whiter Than White
Most people feel uncomfortable when they see another human being in pain. Empathy tells us to help. Compassion tells us to comfort. Conscience tells us that another person’s suffering matters. But not everyone responds that way. Some people seem to take satisfaction in another person’s misfortune. Others may quietly hope that someone fails, loses everything,… Read More When Someone Wants Others to Suffer: The Psychology of a Cruel Mind
Perhaps the saddest stories are not always those of abuse itself. Sometimes, they are the stories of people who reached out for help… …and nobody listened. Every year, there are heartbreaking cases where people tell someone they are frightened, overwhelmed, or unable to cope. They send messages. They confide in family. They speak to friends.… Read More The Cry That Went Unheard
One of the most confusing experiences for many people in abusive relationships is finally finding the courage to reach out to their partner’s family, only to be met with silence, denial, insults, or even blame. You hope someone will listen. You hope someone will say, “We had no idea. How can we help?” Instead, your message… Read More When You Reach Out to the Family… and Are Met With Silence or Hostility
When relationships are struggling, many people naturally turn to family or close friends for advice. Support from loved ones can be invaluable. It can provide perspective, comfort, and practical help during difficult times. But not all advice is wise. Sometimes, the loudest voices don’t calm the storm—they become part of it. Instead of encouraging communication,… Read More When Family Becomes Fuel Instead of Support: The Psychology of Destructive Interference
