Linda I’ve spoken in depth to XXXX he wants to sell the house as much as you and get out of Moraira especially in view of his diagnosis. “He hated Spain, He spent years avoiding it. Now, suddenly, he doesn’t want to leave—and I’ve heard it from his own sister: he wants out.” Meanwhile, behind… Read More “It’s Not Me, It’s You”: The Dark Neuroscience of Projection and Post-Separation Abuse
When there’s no sex in a long-term relationship, it’s not just about physical absence—it often points to deeper emotional, psychological, relational, or even physiological dynamics that are unfolding beneath the surface. A sexless relationship doesn’t automatically mean a failing one, but it does call for attention, care, and often courageous conversations. Let’s explore what may be going on in… Read More Emotional Disconnection
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate 🎭 “Dying” to Be the Centre of Attention? Be Careful What You Wish For… Sometimes, life really does hand you a story that’s stranger than fiction. One minute, someone is telling you they’re at death’s door… the next, they’re swinging a tennis racket seven days a week… Read More 🎭 “Dying” to Be the Centre of Attention? Be Careful What You Wish For…
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate We often associate pain with physical injury—a broken bone, a burn, a sprain. But what about the pain of being excluded, abandoned, or betrayed? What about the ache we feel after a breakup, or the raw vulnerability that follows rejection or bullying? This is what researchers now… Read More When the Heart Aches: Understanding Social Pain Through the Lens of Neuroscience and Healing
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate Why do some abusers intentionally choose significant days — birthdays, holidays, life milestones — to inflict harm?Psychological science and neuroscience offer clear, sobering explanations. The cruelty is often not impulsive.It is a calculated mechanism rooted in disordered emotional regulation, pathological insecurity, and the neurobiology of control. 1. Abuse… Read More The Neuroscience and Psychology Behind Cruelty in Abusers
In the aftermath of emotional abuse or controlling relationships, many survivors describe a strange, almost surreal experience: even when the abuser is gone, the fear remains. The hesitation, the second-guessing, the deep-seated belief that they must ask permission for basic life choices — all of it lingers, like invisible chains wrapped tightly around the mind. This psychological… Read More The Invisible Chains: Understanding Controlling Relationships and the Neuroscience of Healing
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate A Truth to Hold Onto They’re not lying because you were the villain.They’re lying because you were good—and they can’t live with the fact that they hurt someone who truly cared. So they rewrite the story.They cast themselves as the victim.And they paint you in whatever colors… Read More A Truth to Hold Onto
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate Today, you live a life filled with peace, family, joy, and autonomy.The life you were always worthy of, even when you were made to believe otherwise. No one will ever again dictate who you can see, what you can love, or how brightly you can live.You are… Read More From Survival to Thriving
When someone grows up (or spends significant time) in an environment of deprivation — where love, safety, validation, or consistency were scarce — their nervous system gets trained to expect love to be: This conditioning becomes their “blueprint” for relationships later in life.Not because they are foolish or weak, but because the brain wires to what is familiar, even if… Read More How Deprivation Conditioning Plays Out in Adult Relationships
At its core, deprivation conditioning refers to how a person (or even an animal) becomes conditioned — psychologically and behaviorally — because of a lack or absence of something essential. In classical behavioral terms, it’s about how deprivation (like lack of food, love, attention, approval, safety, affection, etc.) creates powerful motivations and emotional patterns. The brain adapts to the absence of basic needs… Read More What is Deprivation Conditioning?
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