Abuse is a term that refers to the mistreatment, harm, or infliction of injury on someone, either through physical, emotional, verbal, sexual, or other means. Abuse can occur in various contexts, including relationships, families, institutions, and broader social settings. It is a serious violation of an individual’s rights and can have profound and lasting effects on their physical, emotional, and psychological well-being.
Denial about underage pornography, especially when someone claims it’s “normal,” is both dangerous and deeply misguided. This kind of denial isn’t just a refusal to accept reality—it actively harms victims and enables ongoing abuse. From a psychological and trauma-informed standpoint, such denial is a form of collective blindfolding that keeps harmful cycles alive. Here’s why… Read More Underage
“I remember when I first met him and we were in a supermarket shopping. We were packing groceries at the checkout. I remember him saying over and over again throughout the marriage that he looked over to me and saw how beautiful I was and couldn’t believe I was with him. He said I looked… Read More “He Looked at Me and Couldn’t Believe I Was With Him”: How Insecurity and Control Feed Abuse — A Psychological Perspective
The honest and evidence-based answer is: You can love someone with ASPD, but that love may not be emotionally or physically safe — especially if violence is involved.And safety, not love, must come first. 🧠 What is ASPD? Antisocial Personality Disorder is a serious and often misunderstood condition characterized by: Not everyone with ASPD is… Read More 💔 Can You Love Someone with Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD) — Especially If They’re Violent?
Abusers don’t just lie to you — they often lie about you, especially to your friends, family, colleagues, or community. This is a deliberate form of character assassination, and it’s often part of a larger strategy called “DARVO”: Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender. The goal?To discredit you before you tell the truth, so that when you do speak out, people doubt… Read More DARVO
Abuse doesn’t just happen in the shadows.It’s carefully concealed with lies.And many abusers are pathological liars — compulsively distorting reality to protect themselves and isolate their victims. Lying isn’t just what they do.It’s how they control the narrative.It’s how they stay hidden.It’s how they keep you confused, apologizing, and questioning your own memory. And worst of all?It’s how they convince everyone else that they’re… Read More 🧠 Most Abusers Are Pathological Liars — And That’s How They Get Away With It
Let’s be clear: You shouldn’t. When abuse becomes physical, it becomes dangerous. Life-threatening. Non-negotiable. I speak from lived experience — not theory, not speculation.And I’m here to tell you the hard truth many don’t want to say out loud: Physical abuse doesn’t just “happen.” It escalates. Do not wait for it to “get better.” Do not wait for… Read More ❌ How Many Times Should You Forgive Someone Who Has Physically Abused You?
It’s one of the most damaging myths survivors are told: “You just need to kiss and make up.”“All couples fight — you just have to let it go.”“Stop bringing up the past.” No. Let’s get one thing absolutely clear. An argument is a disagreement.Abuse is a pattern of power, control, and harm. ☑️ Arguments happen between… Read More Let’s Get One Thing Clear: A Fight is One Thing. Abuse is Something Else.
I haven’t changed — I’ve come home to who I’ve always been.Raised by a strong, no-nonsense single mother who walked away from two abusive marriages, I was taught early that violence, control, and manipulation are never love — they are never to be tolerated. In our home, truth was everything.Even when it was hard.Even when it meant… Read More 🌱 From Confusion to Clarity: A Life Built on Truth
A personal story of survival, silence, and reclaiming power. On October 16th, my life changed. That night, after a physically abusive incident, he left the house — not in shame, not in reflection, not to apologize —But to go out on the town.To join his friends.To sit in a bar, drink, laugh, and socialize as if nothing had happened —As… Read More 💔 The End of the Beginning
There he was. Sitting snug in his new suit, as if he were heading to a job interview rather than standing trial for abuse. Flanked by people who looked straight ahead, pretending not to know, not to feel, not to squirm under the weight of the truth that had finally made its way into the… Read More The Suit Didn’t Save Him: What a Courtroom Can’t Hide
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 