Eddie Richardson was born in 1936 and grew up in wartorn south London. He forged a career as a businessman and became, together with his brother Charlie, head of a criminal gang that dominated London south of the Thames in the 1960s. After spending more than 20 years of his life in prison – where… Read More Alive and kicking
What am I afraid will happen in this situation? What might people think about me in this situation? Is it almost always best to be saving/helping another person? Why? How will I react in this situation (what symptoms will I exhibit – eg, racing heart)? What if my expectations come true? What might that lead… Read More Nine Questions that saved my life?
Acts of kindness are like seeds that, when planted and nurtured, grow into strong and healthy relationships. Whether it’s bringing your partner their favourite coffee, leaving a love note, surprising them with something thoughtful, or doing a chore without being asked — these small gestures have the power to deepen connection and cultivate real appreciation.… Read More Acts of kindness
The day I finally had the opportunity to see Dubai — a place I had never been in my life — I should have felt excited. I was on my way to Perth, Australia, to see my daughter and my grandchildren. It was the trip of a lifetime. He refused to come with me, yet… Read More “The Day I Realised It Was Never Love — Only Control: A Neuroscience Perspective”
1. The Body Responds — Same Physiology for Fear and ExcitementWhen your body experiences intense situations — like standing on a high suspension bridge, skydiving, or even public speaking — your autonomic nervous system (ANS) kicks in: Sympathetic nervous system: triggers “fight or flight” Heart rate increases, breathing quickens Adrenaline and noradrenaline surge Sweating, pupil dilation, muscle tension occur… Read More Misattribution of Arousal: A Neuroscience Perspective
Recently, while watching live music at a local nightclub with a long-time family friend, I was reminded of something powerful: the very first Christmas I spent in my new home and life in Spain. It was Christmas Eve — a time when friends and family were relaxing, preparing, and enjoying themselves behind closed doors. But… Read More The Last Christmas I Spent in Silence, and the First I Truly Celebrated
After an abusive relationship, there is often a real risk of intimidation, aggression, or confrontation when the abuser enters the home. Guardia Civil presence ensures that the survivor and anyone else present are protected during the collection process. The presence of law enforcement helps to reduce tension, ensuring that the abuser cannot use the collection as an opportunity to threaten,… Read More Why the Guardia Civil Accompanies an Abuser to Collect Belongings
[Your Name][Your Address][City, Postal Code][Date] To: [Ex-Partner’s Name][Their Last Known Address] Subject: Notice to Collect Personal Belongings Dear [Ex-Partner’s Name], Following the end of our relationship and your departure from the shared residence at [Your Address], this letter serves as a formal notice regarding your remaining personal belongings. You are hereby requested to collect all personal items… Read More Template Notice Letter for Collecting Belongings
When you remove the remnants of an abusive relationship and take control of your living space, you are doing much more than tidying up. You are engaging in a profound act of neurobiological and psychological self-reclamation. The space you inhabit directly interacts with your brain, body, and nervous system — influencing how safe, calm, and empowered… Read More Reclaim Your Space — A Neuroscience & Psychological Perspective
Step 1: Take Inventory Make a detailed list of all items left behind. Take clear photos or videos to document the condition and location of each item. Note anything of high value or items that could be legally contentious. Step 2: Send Written Notice Draft a polite but firm notice requesting collection of belongings. Deadline (reasonable notice: UK 14–28 days / Spain 15–30 days)… Read More Step-by-Step Checklist: Safely Removing an Ex’s Belongings
