Cognitive Restructuring
Author: Linda C J Turner
Linda C J Turner - Your Journey to Emotional Wellness | Emotional Trauma Therapist | EMDR | CBT | NLP |
Therapy for Men
Couples Therapy, Separation, and What Really Determines the Outcome
In my work with couples, one pattern becomes very clear over time: the outcome of a separation or reconciliation is rarely determined by the relationship ending itself—but by how people behave during that process. When couples reach a turning point, there are usually three broad paths I see unfold. 1. When Respect Remains Intact Some couples manage… Read More Couples Therapy, Separation, and What Really Determines the Outcome
Taking your life back
Reaching a settlement of the bare minimum I am legally entitled to—no surprise there. After 32 years, I didn’t expect anything more. Legally, it may be 50%.But law and lived experience are not the same thing. Power, control, and imbalance shape what people walk away with in reality—not just paperwork. After a lifetime, what you… Read More Taking your life back
Bare minimum
Bare minimum.That’s what it was after 32 years—and that’s what it stayed. No shock there. But this was never about money. It was about getting out.About surviving something that slowly takes pieces of you.About choosing freedom even when it costs you everything familiar. The milestones aren’t loud.They’re in the quiet moments—when your head finally feels… Read More Bare minimum
Valencian Community (Comunitat Valenciana)
🟣 “No és no” Campaign (It means No) 👉 Focus: consent, bystander awareness, immediate reporting 🟪 Puntos Violeta (Purple Points) 👉 Often present in: 🧡 “Espacios Seguros” (Safe Spaces Initiative) These places display signs showing they are safe points if someone feels threatened. 👉 Quiet but powerful—help is embedded in everyday places 🏙️ Local Council Campaigns (Alicante & Marina Alta area)… Read More Valencian Community (Comunitat Valenciana)
We talk about rising abuse.We see the headlines.We read the reports.
But this isn’t happening somewhere else.It’s happening here. In our towns. In our communities. Across the Costa Blanca, there are “Puntos Violeta” at events.Posters that say “No és no.”Safe spaces in bars and shops.Campaigns in schools teaching young people about respect and control. These things exist for a reason. Because harassment is happening in nightlife.Because coercion… Read More We talk about rising abuse.We see the headlines.We read the reports.
🇪🇸 Current & Ongoing Campaigns in Spain
There are quite a few campaigns and initiatives happening in Spain right now around violence against women and girls—some long-standing, some evolving with new risks (like digital abuse). Here’s a clear overview of the main ones so you can see the landscape: 🇪🇸 Current & Ongoing Campaigns in Spain 🔴 “Saca tarjeta roja al maltratador” (Show the red card… Read More 🇪🇸 Current & Ongoing Campaigns in Spain
When Abuse Doesn’t End in Visible Violence: The Hidden Cost of Coercion and Control
Recent reports have highlighted a deeply concerning reality: in some cases, the impact of domestic abuse is so severe that victims take their own lives. This is not a separate issue from abuse.It is part of it. When a person is subjected to sustained fear, control, psychological harm, and isolation, the damage is not always… Read More When Abuse Doesn’t End in Visible Violence: The Hidden Cost of Coercion and Control
No-Contact Relapse Prevention Plan
1. Make the decision harder to undo Don’t rely on willpower alone—use structure. 🧠 If contact is effortless, relapse is more likely. 2. Write your “truth anchor” note Keep one note on your phone titled: “Why I’m not going back” Include: Read it only when urges hit. 3. Prepare for predictable triggers Urges usually spike when:… Read More No-Contact Relapse Prevention Plan
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 