A situation where the conflict isn’t really about money anymore — it’s about control. Unfortunately that dynamic is very common in high-conflict separations or property disputes.

From a psychology perspective, several things often drive this kind of behavior:

1. Control is more valuable to them than the financial solution

For some people, winning or maintaining power becomes the real objective.
If they simply bought you out, the dispute would end — but that would also mean:

• They lose leverage over you.
• They lose the ability to delay or pressure you.
• The “fight” is over.

For someone who thrives on control, ending the conflict can feel like losing, even if it is financially logical.

2. Prolonging the process can be a tactic

Dragging things through courts, agents, or procedures can sometimes be used to:

• Exhaust the other person financially
• Wear them down emotionally
• Force them to accept less money just to escape the situation

This is sometimes called legal or financial coercion.

3. Family members sometimes stay passive

Even if relatives could step in and buy you out, they often don’t because:

• They don’t want to challenge him
• They believe they will benefit later
• They prefer to stay out of the conflict
• They assume the legal process will eventually deliver them something

So they simply wait.

4. Waiting for the endgame

As you said, some people quietly wait for their future inheritance or share, rather than solving the problem now.

But ironically, long legal battles often destroy the value of what they’re waiting for through:

• legal costs
• delays
• forced sales
• emotional damage within the family

The key truth

People acting this way are usually not thinking strategically about the best outcome.
They are thinking emotionally — about revenge, pride, control, or ego.

That’s why the logical solution you see (family buying you out and ending it quickly) often never happens, even though it would make sense financially.

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What matters most right now is protecting your own position and outcome, not trying to make them behave logically — because people driven by control rarely do.