1. Do They Notice Subtle Changes in You?
- They recognize shifts in your mood or energy without being told.
- They remember small details you’ve shared in the past.
- They observe changes in behavior, expressions, or tone.
2. Do They Listen Deeply?
- They listen without interrupting, judging, or giving advice immediately.
- They let you fully express emotions without trying to “fix” you.
- They reflect back what they hear to ensure understanding.
3. Do They Respect Your Vulnerability?
- They treat your feelings as important and valid.
- They do not minimize, shame, or dismiss your emotions.
- They create emotional safety for honesty.
4. Do They Acknowledge Your Complexity?
- They accept contradictions in your personality.
- They appreciate your quirks, strengths, and flaws equally.
- They do not try to “change” or simplify who you are.
5. Do They Make You Feel Safe Being Yourself?
- You can show anger, sadness, or vulnerability without fear.
- You feel relaxed and unguarded around them.
- You trust them with your inner world.
6. Do They Follow Up and Remember What Matters?
- They recall important conversations or emotional details.
- They check in thoughtfully without prompting.
- They act in ways that show they remember and care.
7. Do They Respect Your Autonomy?
- They recognize you as a full, independent person.
- They do not try to define, predict, or control you.
- They celebrate your individuality, not just how you fit into their life.
8. Can They Sit With Silence or Discomfort?
- They are comfortable in quiet or reflective moments.
- They can tolerate difficult conversations without defensiveness.
- They do not rush to fill emotional space.
9. How Do You Feel After Interacting With Them?
- Energized, understood, and safe
- Calm, grounded, and emotionally secure
- Connected rather than drained or confused
✅ How to Use This Checklist
- Check honestly, not optimistically — patterns matter more than charm.
- If someone fails in multiple areas, they may not be able to truly see you.
- Use this as a guide for emotional boundaries, not a pass/fail test.
- Over time, consistency is the real test — true seeing emerges in repeated, ordinary moments.
