1. Documenting Physical Abuse

•  Collect medical records, hospital or GP notes.
•  Take dated photos of injuries (if safe to do so).
•  Record police reports or incident reports.
•  Keep a timeline of incidents with dates, times, and context.

2. Documenting Emotional Abuse

•  Save messages, emails, or social media posts showing manipulation, threats, or gaslighting.
•  Note patterns of belittling, intimidation, or controlling behavior.
•  Include diary entries or journals detailing emotional impact.

3. Documenting Financial Abuse

•  Gather bank statements, credit card records, and transaction histories.
•  Identify hidden assets, transfers, or sudden financial changes.
•  Document instances of restricted access to money, coerced spending, or debts placed in your name.

4. Showing Family Enabling

•  Record messages or actions where family members deny abuse or protect the abuser.
•  Collect any evidence of collusion with the abuser (hiding assets, threatening witnesses, or obstructing justice).
•  Note patterns of interference in your decisions or legal preparations.

5. Presenting Historical Patterns

•  Gather evidence of abuse in previous relationships (if relevant and admissible).
•  Include witness statements from past incidents if they can corroborate a pattern.
•  Show consistency in behavior over time to support credibility.

6. Organizing Evidence

•  Create a clear, chronological timeline of incidents.
•  Separate evidence by category: physical, emotional, financial, family enabling.
•  Highlight documents or communications that directly support key claims.

7. Legal and Safety Measures

•  Work closely with your lawyer to ensure admissibility of evidence.
•  Maintain personal safety—avoid sharing evidence directly with meddling relatives.
•  Consider professional testimony (psychiatrists, psychologists, financial experts) to strengthen your case.

8. Emotional Preparedness

•  Have a support network for emotional backup before and after court.
•  Practice grounding techniques for high-stress moments in court.
•  Focus on presenting facts calmly, not engaging in emotional arguments with the abuser or relatives.

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This checklist allows you to present a clear, organized case, showing not just the abuse itself but the enabling behaviors and hidden financial control.