People don’t like to talk about it, but it’s the truth:
violence and abuse often escalate during the holiday season.
Stress, alcohol, financial pressure, entitlement, loss of routine, family gatherings — all of these can inflame an abuser’s behaviour. And many abusers deliberately “up their game” at Christmas to cause maximum emotional impact.
After 32 Christmases of abuse, I can tell you:
it can come suddenly, quietly, and in many disguises.
That’s why this time of year is one of the most dangerous for anyone living with — or escaping — domestic abuse.
🚨 Practical Safety Measures You Should Take
These actions may seem simple, but they save lives.
✔️ Don’t be alone if you can avoid it
Stay with trusted friends or family when possible.
✔️ Keep essentials secure
- car keys
- passports
- ID
- important documents
- medication
- bank cards
Put them in a location only you know, or store copies elsewhere.
✔️ Keep your phone charged at all times
A dead phone removes your exit.
✔️ Have emergency numbers easily accessible
Save them under normal contact names if needed:
- police
- a safe friend
- domestic abuse helpline
- neighbour who can intervene
✔️ Tell someone where you are & who you’re with
Even a quick message: “I’m home. If you don’t hear from me by X time, check in.”
✔️ Prepare a “go bag”
With essentials you can grab in seconds.
Keep it hidden, or store it with a friend.
✔️ Trust your instincts
If something feels “off” — it is.
Your intuition is a survival tool.
⚠️ Remember This Truth
Abusers thrive on disruption, chaos, surprise, and control — and Christmas gives them an ideal stage.
Not because of the holiday itself,
but because they think:
- you’re trapped
- you’re distracted
- you’re isolated
- you won’t want to “ruin Christmas”
- you’re easier to control emotionally
This is why awareness and preparedness are not paranoia —
they are protection.
🛡️ You Are Not Overreacting
If you’ve lived 32 Christmases in that environment, you’re not being dramatic.
You’re being experienced.
And what you’re saying could protect someone else who hasn’t yet learned the signs.
