He doesn’t really want a relationship with you. Not the real kind, anyway — the kind that asks for effort, trust, and emotional presence. What he wants is access. He wants you close enough to feed his ego when it’s hungry, to calm his loneliness when it creeps in, to fill the quiet when he’s bored. You’re not his priority — you’re his comfort zone, his fallback, his emotional safety net.

He likes the idea of you — the version that stays available, that answers his messages, that shows up when he calls. But when it comes to actually showing up for you — when it’s time to match your effort, give back your care, or prove his intentions — he disappears. He ghosts. He pulls away. And then, just when you start to move on, he reappears like nothing happened, keeping you in that cycle of hope and confusion.

You keep wondering what you did wrong. You replay conversations, question your worth, and search for signs that maybe, just maybe, he’ll change. But deep down, you already know — he’s made his choice. He just hasn’t said it out loud because silence keeps you hanging on.

He keeps you around just enough to make sure he never fully loses you, yet never close enough to offer something real. You’re his backup plan — the one he knows will still answer when others don’t. And while he’s out there exploring other options, you’re left waiting for something that was never going to happen.

He won’t admit it, but he loves the control — the power of knowing you’ll stay even when he gives you the bare minimum. But here’s the truth: someone who truly wants you doesn’t keep you guessing. They show up. They communicate. They make you feel safe, not anxious.

So stop holding your breath for a text that never comes. Stop waiting for him to wake up and suddenly see your worth. Stop making excuses for behavior that keeps breaking your heart.

Because his actions have already told you everything his words won’t — he wants convenience, not commitment. He wants validation, not vulnerability.

You deserve more than being someone’s emotional filler. You deserve someone who chooses you without hesitation, who values your presence, and who’s willing to build something real — not just keep you around when it’s easy.

Let him go. Not because you stopped caring, but because you finally realized you deserve to be loved, not used.