(UK / Spain)
Step 1: Preserve Evidence Safely
Keep digital or physical copies without putting yourself at risk.
| Type of Evidence | What to Collect / Save |
|---|---|
| Messages / Emails | Texts, WhatsApps, Messenger, emails showing threats, pressure, or demands. Include timestamps. |
| Voicemails / Recordings | Save threatening calls or voice notes. Check local law before recording. |
| Witnesses | Names of anyone who heard or saw threats, controlling behaviour, or coercion. |
| Financial Records | Bank statements, sudden attempts to restrict access, threats re: finances. |
| Legal / Court Documents | Any documents showing attempts to interfere with legal rights or pressure you to drop claims. |
| Pattern Evidence | Notes about repeated controlling, threatening, or isolating behaviour. Date each incident. |
Step 2: Protect Yourself
- Do not sign or agree to anything under threat.
- Avoid confrontation if the person is aggressive; prioritize safety.
- Document everything in real time if possible.
- Tell a trusted person or solicitor what’s happening.
Step 3: Immediate Support & Contacts
United Kingdom
- Emergency Services: 999 (if in danger)
- Samaritans: 116 123 (24/7, confidential)
- Domestic Abuse Helpline / Advice:
- National Domestic Abuse Helpline: 0808 2000 247
- Citizens Advice (legal & family guidance): 03444 111 444
Spain
- Emergency Services: 112
- National Suicide / Emotional Support: 024
- Teléfono de la Esperanza: 717 003 717
- Domestic Abuse / Legal Advice: Local police (Policía / Guardia Civil) & municipal victim services.
Step 4: Legal Action
- Contact a family / divorce solicitor immediately.
- Explain the threats and coercion; share evidence safely.
- Ask about protective orders, injunctions, freezing orders, and how to challenge agreements made under duress.
Step 5: Safety Planning
- Make a safety plan: places to go, contacts to call, who knows you’re at risk.
- Keep emergency numbers accessible.
- Avoid acting alone if you anticipate confrontation.
Remember:
Threatening or pressuring someone to drop legal proceedings can be criminal, may affect divorce outcomes, and is considered coercive control in the UK and Spain. Collect evidence, stay safe, and get professional advice immediately.
