(Psychology + Attachment Perspective)
âś… Signs of a Healthy Honeymoon Phase
- You look forward to seeing them, even for small things.
- Conversations flow easily, with some deep or “future-oriented” chats.
- There’s a balance of excitement and comfort (butterflies + safety).
- You feel curious about their world (family, values, dreams).
- There’s some effort from both sides (texts, planning, little gestures).
- Physical and emotional intimacy are building naturally.
⚖️ Signs of a Normal Slowdown / Individual Differences
- They (or you) are naturally slower to open up.
- You’re both busy with work/stress, which dampens intensity.
- One of you has a more avoidant attachment style (prefers space at first).
- Excitement is there, but not constant “fireworks” — it’s steadier.
- Progress feels a little slower, but there’s still interest and effort.
đźš© Signs of Real Incompatibility / Lack of Progress
- You feel indifferent about seeing them (not just tired or stressed).
- Long chats feel like a chore, not something you crave.
- There’s no curiosity about their inner world or future.
- You’re already making excuses to avoid time together.
- Affection and intimacy feel forced or one-sided.
- You notice you’re more excited elsewhere (friends, alone, even dating apps).
- You keep asking yourself: “Shouldn’t I be feeling more by now?”
🧠Quick Reflection Questions
- Excitement vs Effort: Does being with them feel like joy or like work?
- Curiosity: Do I want to know more about them, or do I feel done already?
- Future Vision: Do I see myself exploring a future with them, or am I avoiding the thought?
- Energy: After time together, do I feel energized or drained?
✨ Bottom line:
- If there’s some spark and willingness → it may just be a pacing/attachment style issue.
- If there’s consistent flatness, avoidance, or lack of desire to connect → it’s likely incompatibility.
