Client Question:
“I don’t understand — he has someone else, yet he’s sending me love songs, sweet messages, and keeps emotionally engaging with me. But when I suggest meeting up or actually talking in person, he pulls away or avoids it. What does this mean? Is he serious, or is this a head game?”

Answer:
First, let’s be really clear — this is not love.
It’s emotional baiting dressed up as romance.
And it happens more often than you think.

Many women who’ve experienced control, betrayal, or inconsistency in past relationships find themselves feeling triggered or confused when someone new starts playing these games. It feels familiar, and for a moment… it feels like hope. But here’s the truth beneath the surface:

🧠 What’s Really Going On:

1. Emotional ego boost (not connection):
Men like this often seek emotional validation. They want to feel desired, important, and admired — without offering anything meaningful in return. Your attention becomes a mirror for their ego, not a true invitation to connection.

2. “Safe” flirting from a distance:
By sending songs and messages, he maintains control of the narrative. He doesn’t have to face your real questions, real emotions, or real needs. It’s a one-sided performance with no real-world accountability.

3. Keeping you emotionally “on the hook”:
This behavior often shows up when a man already has someone else but wants to keep his emotional options open. He’s not offering you a future — he’s offering a fantasy. And if you’re emotionally invested, it benefits him, not you.

4. Avoidant or manipulative patterns:
This is classic avoidant behavior, or in some cases, manipulative. He may want the thrill of your response, the dopamine hit of attention — but not the vulnerability or responsibility of being seen in real life.

He’s writing lyrics — not living the love story.

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💬 How to Read Between the Lines:

🛑 If he sends love songs but avoids showing up in person — he’s not serious.
💡 If he’s in a relationship with someone else — he’s not emotionally available.
💭 If he’s giving you just enough attention to stay emotionally entangled, but never follows through — he’s playing games.

It’s time to stop asking “What does he want?” and start asking “What do I deserve?”

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💗 What You Deserve:

✅ Someone who shows up, not just sends songs.
✅ Someone emotionally available, honest, and real.
✅ Someone whose love is present, consistent, and not a secret.
✅ Someone who doesn’t breadcrumb you with romantic gestures while keeping their feet firmly planted in another relationship.

Because here’s the bottom line:

If love doesn’t feel safe, clear, and mutual — it’s not love.
It’s performance.
And you’ve spent long enough in someone else’s show.

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✨ You don’t need to decode love songs. You need someone who makes love undeniably obvious.

#AskWithClarity
#NoMoreHeadGames
#LoveWithoutConfusion
#WhatDoYOUDeserve
#FromFantasyToFreedom
#EmotionalMaturityOnly

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