Post 6: “You Need Help — You’re Unstable” — Weaponizing Mental Health to Discredit You
💬 “You need help.”
💬 “You’re unstable.”
💬 “I’ve spoken to your friends — they agree with me.”
💬 “You have a memory problem. Something’s wrong with you.”
These are not concerns. They’re control tactics dressed up as concern.
🚩 What’s Really Happening?
When someone repeatedly tells you that you’re mentally unwell, too emotional, or can’t remember things properly, it’s often not because they care — it’s because they want to:
- Discredit your version of reality
- Make you feel confused or ashamed
- Turn others against you by spreading doubt
- Make your natural trauma responses look like instability
This isn’t mental health advocacy.
It’s character assassination in disguise.
🧠 Psychological Tactic at Play: Projection + Gaslighting + Isolation
This abusive pattern combines several toxic strategies:
🔹 Gaslighting: Undermining your memory and cognition
🔹 Projection: Blaming you for their own harmful behavior
🔹 Smear Campaigns: Turning friends or family against you
🔹 Abusive Pseudo-Diagnosis: Playing armchair psychologist to control the narrative
🧬 Neuroscience Insight: Why This Hurts So Deeply
Your brain depends on interpersonal validation to feel safe and anchored. When someone repeatedly tells you you’re unstable or your memory is broken, your brain — especially under trauma — might start to believe it.
🧠 The hippocampus (memory center) becomes confused.
🧠 The amygdala (fear response) flares up.
🧠 The prefrontal cortex (decision-making) starts to shut down.
It becomes hard to distinguish manipulation from truth — and that’s the goal of this kind of abuse.
🔥 Important Reminder:
✋ Reacting to abuse is not instability.
✋ Struggling with trauma is not the same as being mentally unwell.
✋ Forgetting details under stress is a normal nervous system response, not a “problem.”
❤️🩹 For Survivors: You Don’t Owe Anyone Your Sanity as Proof
You don’t need to be perfectly composed to deserve respect.
You don’t need to defend your memory to prove your worth.
You don’t need to be mentally “together” to be taken seriously.
You are not unstable — you’re healing in the aftermath of chaos.
💡 Affirmation:
“I release the false labels others have placed on me.
My emotional responses are valid.
My memory may carry trauma, but my truth remains whole.
I trust myself more than I trust their judgment of me.”
