Post 5: “You’re Imagining Things” — The Gaslighter’s Favorite Weapon
💬 “I never said that.”
💬 “That didn’t happen.”
💬 “You’re so sensitive — you must have misunderstood.”
💬 “You’re imagining things again.”
These phrases don’t just hurt — they distort your reality.
🚩 What’s Really Happening?
This isn’t a misunderstanding.
This isn’t forgetfulness.
This is gaslighting — a manipulative strategy that makes you question your own mind.
It’s not about truth. It’s about control.
It’s not confusion. It’s coercion.
When someone denies your lived experience over and over, they’re not just disagreeing — they are rewriting the story, and trying to convince you to hand over the pen.
🧠 Psychological Tactic at Play: Gaslighting
Gaslighting:
- Erodes self-trust
- Undermines your confidence in memory, perception, and emotion
- Makes you dependent on the abuser’s version of events
- Conditions you to second-guess everything — even your gut instincts
Over time, you might catch yourself:
- Apologizing for things you didn’t do
- Freezing when asked to recall something
- Avoiding confrontation because you fear being made to feel “crazy”
But here’s the truth:
👉 You’re not crazy. You’re being manipulated.
🧬 The Neuroscience of Gaslighting
Repeated gaslighting hijacks your nervous system.
It activates the amygdala (fear center) and shuts down the prefrontal cortex (logic center), making it harder to trust your thoughts. You start doubting yourself before anyone else has the chance to.
That’s not a flaw in you — that’s a survival response.
❤️🩹 For Survivors: Your Memory Matters
Your brain remembers the tone. The tension. The look on their face.
You know what happened, even if they try to erase it.
You don’t need someone else to validate your truth in order for it to be real.
You are not imagining it.
You lived through it.
You survived it.
💡 Affirmation:
“My memory is valid.
I no longer abandon myself to keep someone else comfortable.
I reclaim my reality, one truth at a time.”
