📌 Recognizing Subtle Abuse Patterns

Post 1: “You’re Just Guessing” — A Deflection, Not a Dialogue

💬 “You’re just guessing.”
😏 [with a smirk, a laugh, or a dismissive tone]
🧩 Every time you try to understand, they make you feel like you’re making things up.

This isn’t harmless teasing. It’s a subtle but powerful form of emotional manipulation. And it’s more common than you think.


🚩 What’s Really Happening?

✅ You’re asking a valid question.
❌ They don’t want to answer.
⚠️ So they flip it — making you question yourself instead.

Over time, this creates:

  • Self-doubt
  • Emotional paralysis
  • A nervous system stuck in hypervigilance

🧠 Psychological Tactic at Play: Deflection + Gaslighting

People who say this often:

  • Avoid responsibility
  • Feel threatened by being emotionally seen
  • Want to keep you in the dark (because clarity gives you power)

This tactic isn’t about truth — it’s about control.


❤️‍🩹 For Survivors: You Deserve Emotional Clarity

You are not “too much.”
You are not “just guessing.”
You are trying to feel safe in a space where you were made to feel unsure.

Trust the part of you that noticed.


💡 Affirmation:

“My questions are valid.
My instincts are wise.
I no longer accept dismissal in place of truth.”

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