Turning endings into beginnings with clarity, boundaries, and hope.
By Linda C J Turner Therapy | Emotional Recovery & Trauma Specialist
Divorce is not just a legal ending — it’s an emotional unravelling of dreams, identities, and sometimes even reality as you knew it.
But it can also be the greatest rebirth of your life.
Whether your divorce came after years of emotional abuse, control, betrayal, or simple disconnection, you now have space. Space to rebuild, reinvent, and rediscover the you that may have been buried beneath roles, resentment, or routine.
Here’s a powerful post-divorce practice I encourage my clients to explore:
✨ 1. What I’m Looking Forward To
Write your vision. Be bold, be gentle, be free.
This isn’t a to-do list — this is a to-be list. A declaration of who you are becoming and what you are finally creating space for.
Ask yourself:
💫 What am I excited to wake up to?
🌎 Where do I want to travel or live?
🧘 What kind of energy do I want in my life?
💖 Who do I want to be surrounded by?
🎨 What passions do I want to reclaim?
🌱 How do I want to feel — in my body, my home, my relationships?
🌟 Examples of “What I’m Looking Forward To”
- Waking up in peace — no walking on eggshells
- A home that feels safe, sacred, and mine
- Going out with friends without guilt or interrogation
- Traveling to places I was never “allowed” to go
- Finding love again — or falling madly in love with myself
- Reclaiming my hobbies, laughter, freedom
- Making decisions without fear
- Feeling proud of who I am and how far I’ve come
This is your life now. You get to choose.
❌ 2. What I Will No Longer Tolerate
Your boundaries are not walls — they are the gates to your peace.
This is where you get clear on what is non-negotiable moving forward. This list isn’t about resentment — it’s about self-respect.
Ask yourself:
🚫 What am I done explaining away or justifying?
💔 What behaviors left me feeling anxious, small, or ashamed?
🛑 What were the red flags I ignored before — and won’t ignore again?
🔥 Examples of “What I Will No Longer Tolerate”
- Being silenced, mocked, or gaslit
- Emotional manipulation disguised as love
- Disrespect, dismissiveness, or control
- Anyone who makes me feel like I’m “too much”
- Apologizing for having needs or feelings
- Carrying all the emotional labor alone
- Living for someone else’s approval
- One-sided relationships with no accountability
These aren’t just boundaries. These are acts of self-love.
🧭 3. Your New Life Starts With Intention
This exercise isn’t just a journaling prompt — it’s a compass.
When you declare what you’re calling in and what you’re leaving behind, you signal to your nervous system that safety is possible again.
You start to rebuild trust — in yourself, in your decisions, and in life itself.
💬 Final Thoughts
Your post-divorce life is not just a “next chapter” — it’s an entirely new book, written in your own language, in your own handwriting, for your own joy.
So go ahead:
💖 Write it.
🗣 Speak it.
🎯 Live it.
You’ve earned every word.
🔖 Ready to begin?
🎧 Book a session for post-divorce healing support
You are not broken. You are becoming.
