Because Silence Allows Violence.
🗓️ October 18th, 2024.
The day after I experienced abuse.
My voice was shaking, my nervous system in shock, my heart still pounding from what had just occurred.
I reached out—hoping, perhaps, for empathy, support, or care.
But instead, I was met with this:
“You’ve got to get the villa on the market and once it’s sold you’ll feel more positive.”
Two days later:
“Yes I know Linda, everyone knows because you’ve told the world. All that matters now is you get your share of the house.”
🧠 Let’s Break This Down Psychologically:
When someone responds to abuse with real estate advice or deflection, here’s what is really being said:
🔹 “Let’s move on quickly, your pain is inconvenient.”
🔹 “I’m not going to acknowledge your trauma, but I will focus on the money.”
🔹 “Don’t make this messy. Sell the house. Be quiet.”
🔹 “You’ve told the world—and I wish you hadn’t.”
These are not the words of someone who wants healing.
These are the words of someone who wants silence.
🤯 The Psychological Weaponry Behind These Phrases
📌 Minimization:
Dismissing trauma by jumping to practical matters like selling a house.
This avoids the emotional truth and invalidates the victim’s experience.
📌 Deflection:
Shifting the focus to material assets instead of addressing the actual abuse.
This is a control tactic—keeping you in a fog of confusion and guilt.
📌 Silencing Through Shame:
Saying “you’ve told the world” is code for:
“You shouldn’t have spoken.”
“Keep family secrets safe.”
“You’ve embarrassed us.”
But silence protects the abuser, not the survivor.
🗣️ Yes—I’ve Told the World. And I Will Keep Telling It.
Because I was silenced for three decades.
I was told I was mad, overreacting, too sensitive.
I was told I’d ruin things if I spoke.
I was threatened with being discredited.
But the abuse continued. And silence was its accomplice.
So now, I speak.
Not just for me—but for every woman who has whispered her story into the void and heard nothing back but judgment, shame, or silence.
🌍 To Those Who Say, “Why Tell the World?”
Because violence thrives in silence.
Because secrets don’t protect families—they protect abusers.
Because speaking out is how cycles break.
And because maybe, just maybe, if I share my story loudly enough,
another woman won’t wait 30 years to reclaim her voice.
🔥 Your Reminder Today:
If someone’s first concern after you’ve been abused is property, reputation, or keeping things quiet—they are not safe.
If their discomfort with your truth is louder than their empathy for your pain—walk away.
You are allowed to tell the world.
You are allowed to scream the truth.
You are allowed to break generational silence.
Let them be uncomfortable. You were in pain.
✊ #SilenceAllowsViolence
#NotThePersonYouThinkTheyAre
#EmotionalAbuseAwareness
#SpeakYourTruthEvenIfYourVoiceShakes
#YouDeserveToBeHeard
