The idea of a soulmate — someone who doesn’t just love you but gets you, holds space for you in the quiet hours, listens without fixing, and just is there — is both romantic and profoundly human.

Waking someone up in the middle of the night just to talk? That’s not about neediness. That’s about intimacy. Safety. It means you’re not carrying the world alone. It means someone sees your midnight mind as just as important as your sunshine smile. And yes, I do believe that kind of person can exist.

But here’s the truth — they’re rare. Not because people don’t want to be that kind of partner, but because it takes an incredible level of emotional maturity, vulnerability, and willingness to show up even when it’s inconvenient. Most people are still learning how to hold their own emotions, let alone someone else’s in the quiet dark.

So no, you’re not foolish or idealistic to long for that kind of connection. You’re human. And if you’ve gone through life, especially through trauma or emotional neglect, craving being held emotionally in those moments — your soul is simply asking to be met at the depth it was always meant for.

Does this person exist? Yes. But they don’t just appear like magic. They show up when we’ve done our own healing, when we’re no longer asking someone to complete us but to meet us. They might not always arrive as we imagined, and they might not be perfect — but they’ll be real.

And while you’re waiting — or wondering — it’s okay to grieve the absence of that kind of love. It’s okay to hope for it too. Because you deserve to be loved like that. Middle-of-the-night, no-questions-asked, I-hear-you love.