There are countless people in this world who will treat you with kindness, respect, and love. So why enter into a relationship with someone who abuses you?

If you find yourself wondering that question, hear this loud and clear from someone who has been there: Just don’t do it.

Abuse is not love. It’s control. It’s fear. It’s pain. And it will steal pieces of your soul you might never get back.

Your safety matters more than anyone’s promises, apologies, or sweet words.

I know it’s complicated. I know the hope, the charm, the promises that things will change. But listen to this: the pattern rarely breaks without serious, sustained work — and often it doesn’t break at all.

Don’t risk your emotional or physical safety hoping that “this time will be different.”

There are people out there who will cherish you, respect your boundaries, and help you grow. You deserve that.

If you’re thinking about stepping into a relationship with someone who has shown abusive behavior, pause. Step back. Reach out. Talk to someone you trust. Your safety—your very life—depends on it.

You are worthy of peace, respect, and safety. Don’t settle for less.

— Linda C J Turner

Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment