She left her comfort zone for you.
Her name changed.
Her routines changed.
Her body bore the cost.
Her peace got tested.

And what did you bring?
Inconsistent presence.
Lukewarm loyalty.
A handful of texts and half-effort love.

Let’s be clear: when she chose you, she offered her whole self.
That’s not just a girlfriend. That’s a woman who made you her world.
That’s not a title—it’s trust.
That’s not romance—it’s reliance.

And if you can’t nurture her spirit, guard her heart, or stand tall beside her dreams, you don’t deserve her. Sit this one out.

You crave her softness, but your energy is reckless.
You ask for her respect, but you bring nothing but confusion.
You expect her body, but you bring no leadership, no direction, no consistency.

That’s not love.
That’s emotional labor—and she’s not applying for overtime.

If she still has to dry her own tears, make every plan, carry the emotional weight and the future—news flash: she’s still doing it alone.
If she’s feeling more anxious than adored, more drained than desired, she’s not in love—she’s in survival.

You don’t get to “claim” a woman whose soul you won’t even show up for.
You don’t get to wear the title of her man if you’re still acting like a boy.

So here’s your exit: return her peace, respect her strength, and walk away if you can’t rise with her.
She doesn’t need a liability dressed up as a lover.

And if no one taught you how to hold space for a woman’s worth—
Let this be your lesson: she is not here to fix you, raise you, or fight for what you won’t even show up for.

You want to lead? Then build.
You want her heart? Then protect it.
You want her loyalty? Then earn it.

Or let her go.
A Queen never needed a throne beside someone who can’t rule with her—only someone strong enough not to break what she brings to the table.

— Linda C J Turner

Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment