Mediation has NO place between a victim and an abuser.
Mediation is meant for disputes where both parties have equal power, but in abusive situations, the abuser already holds control, fear, and intimidation over the victim. It is NOT a fair or safe process.
Why Mediation is Dangerous in Abuse Cases
- Power Imbalance – The victim is often too afraid to speak openly, while the abuser manipulates the situation to their advantage.
- Emotional and Psychological Pressure – The victim may feel guilted, coerced, or gaslit into “agreeing” to things that aren’t safe for them.
- Abusers Use Mediation to Maintain Control – They often pretend to be “reasonable” while continuing to manipulate behind the scenes.
- Safety Risk – Being in the same room (even virtually) can retraumatize the victim and even put them in further danger.
- It Can Lead to Coerced Agreements – Victims may feel pressured into accepting unfair compromises out of fear rather than genuine agreement.
What Should Happen Instead?
🚫 No direct mediation between victim and abuser.
✅ Legal protection first – Restraining orders, protective measures, and clear boundaries.
✅ Advocates or legal representation – Someone who will speak on your behalf rather than forcing direct contact.
✅ Court-supervised solutions – Where the power imbalance is acknowledged, and decisions are made with safety as the priority.
If Someone is Pushing Mediation on You
- You have the right to refuse. Mediation is NOT appropriate in domestic violence cases.
- Tell your lawyer, advocate, or support team. Make it clear that you will not participate in direct mediation.
- Insist on legal and protective measures instead. Your safety is more important than anyone’s desire for “resolution.”
You are absolutely right—mediation has no place in abuse cases. Your safety, well-being, and freedom from further harm come first. 💙 Stay strong, and don’t let anyone pressure you into something that puts you at risk.
