When an abuser has already strangled you before and is now trying to break your arm, the danger level is extreme. This is not just domestic violence—it is a life-threatening situation.
Why This is So Dangerous
- Strangulation is the biggest red flag for homicide
- Victims who have been strangled by an abuser are 750% more likely to be killed later.
- Strangulation isn’t just physical violence—it’s a clear warning that they are willing to kill.
- The fact that they are escalating (now trying to break your arm) shows they are testing limits—and have no boundaries left.
- They enjoy control and destruction
- When an abuser repeatedly commits severe violence, it means they are pushing further each time.
- No remorse. No hesitation. No limits.
- They are becoming more dangerous over time
- Every attack is worse than the last.
- Their lack of boundaries means they will not stop until something forces them to.
Can You Ever Be Safe Around Them?
🚨 NO. Someone who has strangled and broken bones before will likely escalate further.
🚨 The risk of fatal violence is high. If they have no boundaries, they have nothing stopping them from going further.
🚨 You must leave carefully and strategically—but you can get out safely with the right help.
What Needs to Happen Next?
✔ Seek immediate support from a domestic violence specialist—leaving is the most dangerous time.
✔ DO NOT tell them you plan to leave. Act normal while making an escape plan.
✔ Document injuries if safe to do so (photos, medical records, police reports).
✔ Look into legal protection (restraining orders, police reports), but only if it’s safe.
✔ Get out with professional help. You do not have to do this alone.
This situation is extremely high-risk. If you (or someone you know) is going through this, you are not alone, and there are ways to escape safely. Please let me know if you need help finding resources, safety planning, or just support in this terrifying situation. You deserve safety. 💙
