It sounds like you’re feeling like someone else is benefiting from the situation while you’re left feeling used or unfulfilled. A relationship of convenience is supposed to be mutually beneficial, but often, one person gains more while the other gives more—leaving them feeling drained, stuck, or even manipulated.

If it’s not convenient for you, then it’s not really a relationship of convenience—it’s an exploitative relationship where someone else is taking advantage of your kindness, stability, or generosity. That could mean:

• They rely on you emotionally but don’t support you in return.
• They enjoy the financial or practical benefits of being with you but don’t invest in the relationship.
• They stay because it suits them, not because they truly value or love you.

If you’re questioning whether this was a relationship of convenience for them but not for you, trust that gut feeling. You’ve been through enough to recognize manipulation when you see it. What about the situation makes you feel like you were the one sacrificing while they were gaining?