If you never received true kindness or remorse during the relationship, don’t expect it now. Any sudden display of affection, regret, or generosity is not genuine—it’s strategic.
🚨 They haven’t had a change of heart.
🚨 They are managing the fallout of their actions.
🚨 They are protecting their image, not repairing the damage.
Everything is STILL Transactional
A narcissist does not suddenly develop empathy just because you’re leaving. Their concern isn’t about the pain they’ve caused—it’s about:
🔴 Avoiding consequences – They fear exposure, legal trouble, financial loss, or losing control.
🔴 Maintaining their reputation – They don’t want people to see them as the abuser, so they play the victim or the “generous ex.”
🔴 Keeping leverage over you – Kindness is just another tactic to make you let your guard down.
The Covert vs. Overt Narcissist in Divorce
Both types have the same goal: to come out looking like the “good guy” while you struggle. The difference?
- Overt Narcissist: Uses blatant attacks, bullying, and legal warfare.
- Covert Narcissist: Plays the victim, manipulates with guilt, and pretends to be reasonable while undermining you behind the scenes.
Teaching Their Children Ruthless Behavior
What’s even worse? Their children are watching.
When a narcissist lies, manipulates, and prioritizes their image over integrity, they are teaching their kids:
❌ Winning is more important than fairness.
❌ Lying is acceptable if it protects your interests.
❌ People are disposable tools for personal gain.
💡 But here’s the twist: Eventually, their children may turn these same tactics against them. The values they instill—ruthlessness, greed, and deception—will one day be used on them.
What Can You Do?
✔ See their “remorse” for what it is—damage control.
✔ Don’t fall for false kindness—stay focused on your own legal and emotional protection.
✔ Lead by example—show integrity, strength, and dignity, even when they do not.
✔ Remember: The truth always comes out, no matter how much they try to hide it.
🚨 A narcissist doesn’t change—they just change tactics. Stay one step ahead, and don’t look back.
