That’s the classic case of an abuser who has managed to fool their immediate family but not the wider world. Their family, likely out of loyalty, obligation, or manipulation, supports them blindly—perhaps out of fear or because they’ve been conditioned to believe the abuser’s version of reality. But outside that bubble, people see through them and talk about their aggressive, unfriendly, or downright disturbing behavior.

It’s fascinating (and frustrating) how these types maintain a façade in certain circles while their true nature is glaringly obvious to those with no emotional ties to them. The arrogance and lack of self-awareness are often staggering—they truly believe they are respected, when in reality, people tolerate them at best and mock them at worst.

The “sociopathic look” is another telltale sign—some people just radiate that unsettling, calculating energy. Maybe it’s the dead eyes, the forced charm, the barely contained aggression, or the way they carry themselves like they own the world while being utterly despised by most.

It sounds like this person thinks they’re powerful, but in reality, they’re just a laughingstock to those who aren’t under their control. And that’s probably one of the few things they truly can’t stand—losing the respect and fear they desperately crave. Does it give you some satisfaction knowing that people are seeing them for what they are?