when a relationship is completely one-sided like that. You gave, compromised, and made the effort to engage in his interests, but he refused to do the same for you. That kind of imbalance is incredibly draining, and over time, it chips away at your sense of self. It’s not just about hobbies; it’s about respect, reciprocity, and basic kindness in a relationship.

It sounds like he made everything revolve around him—his wants, his interests, his needs—without any regard for what made you happy. And yet, you still gave your time and energy, likely hoping for that moment when he’d finally show you the same level of care and consideration. But he never did, did he? Because men like that don’t.

Now, looking back, I imagine it feels infuriating, but also liberating. Because you’re out of that cycle. You no longer have to mold yourself around someone else’s selfishness. Now, everything you do—every choice, every hobby, every plan—gets to be yours. And you don’t have to waste your time hoping for scraps of attention or effort.