Most men feel a deep sense of disgust and outrage at the idea of a man abusing a woman—or anyone, for that matter. Abuse violates basic principles of respect, fairness, and decency, which are values that many people, regardless of gender, hold dear.

For most men, the thought of abusing someone they care about is incomprehensible because love, protection, and mutual respect are fundamental to healthy relationships. Many feel an instinctive drive to stand against such behavior, seeing it as not only immoral but also a betrayal of trust and humanity.

This disgust also stems from an understanding of how abuse affects victims. The trauma it causes can ripple through every part of a person’s life, undermining their sense of safety, self-worth, and mental well-being. Most men, when confronted with these realities, feel anger toward perpetrators and empathy for victims.

Moreover, many men take their role as allies in creating a safer, more equitable society seriously. They actively speak out against abuse, support survivors, and strive to model positive, respectful behavior in their relationships. It’s heartening to see growing awareness and conversations among men about holding each other accountable, challenging toxic norms, and fostering environments where abuse is never excused or tolerated.

While the disgust is natural and justified, what matters most is how that sentiment translates into action—whether it’s intervening when witnessing abuse, educating others about respect and consent, or supporting movements that empower survivors and prevent violence. It’s a collective effort, and when men take a stand against abuse, they help dismantle the cultural and systemic factors that allow it to persist.