Tag: #trauma

Trauma refers to an emotional or psychological response to an event or series of events that are distressing or disturbing, often exceeding an individual’s ability to cope. Traumatic experiences can be diverse and may include situations such as accidents, natural disasters, physical or sexual assault, combat, or the sudden loss of a loved one. Trauma can have a profound impact on an individual’s mental, emotional, and physical well-being, leading to a range of symptoms and challenges.

What’s Really Going On (Psychology + Neuroscience)

When someone lies, is confronted, and then: This is called: 🔴 DARVO DenyAttackReverse Victim and Offender It’s a classic defense pattern used when a person cannot tolerate accountability. The Psychology Behind It 1. Ego Protection & Shame Avoidance When a person lies, their brain experiences: Instead of tolerating these emotions, their psyche externalizes blame. So instead of: “I lied and feel… Read More What’s Really Going On (Psychology + Neuroscience)

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How to Spot Emotional Immaturity Within Minutes

The Fastest Psychological & Neurological Signals Emotional immaturity shows up immediately in how someone regulates emotion, handles attention, and relates to power. You don’t need time.You need attunement. 1. They Talk More Than They Listen (Low Emotional Attunement) 🧠 Neuroscience:This shows poor prefrontal regulation and low empathy processing. Translation:They are emotionally self-focused, not relationally oriented. 2. Fast Intimacy or Fast Attachment… Read More How to Spot Emotional Immaturity Within Minutes

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Why Post-Trauma Women Attract Emotionally Immature Men

The Neuroscience & Psychology Behind This Pattern After trauma — especially relational trauma — a woman’s nervous system becomes highly sensitised to emotional cues. This creates both profound emotional intelligence and temporary vulnerability. And emotionally immature men are drawn to that combination. 1. Trauma Creates Emotional Depth — Which Immature Men Seek Post-trauma women often develop: Emotionally immature men lack these… Read More Why Post-Trauma Women Attract Emotionally Immature Men

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Where Women Go After Traumatic Divorce

And What They Are Truly Looking For in a Partner After a traumatic divorce — especially one involving emotional abuse, control, betrayal, or prolonged stress — a woman’s entire nervous system reorganises. She is no longer seeking excitement. She is seeking safety, peace, and restoration of self. 1. Where Women Go First: Inward Before turning outward, most… Read More Where Women Go After Traumatic Divorce

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Why Some Men Become More Controlling With Age Instead of Calmer

The Neuroscience & Psychology Behind This Shift There is a common belief that age brings wisdom, calm, and emotional maturity. Sometimes it does. But in other cases, age intensifies control, rigidity, anger, and dominance. The difference lies in how the nervous system adapted to earlier life experiences. 1. Age Amplifies Existing Personality Structures A core psychological truth:… Read More Why Some Men Become More Controlling With Age Instead of Calmer

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1) A Psychological Profile of Premeditated Abusers

Understanding the Psychology of Conscious Harm and Strategic Self-Protection Not all abuse is impulsive. Some abusers know exactly what they are doing. They are aware of their patterns.They recognise their cycles.They anticipate escalation.And instead of choosing healing, accountability, or change — they choose strategy. This is the psychology of premeditated abuse. 1. Core Psychological Traits Premeditated abusers typically… Read More 1) A Psychological Profile of Premeditated Abusers

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The Trauma of Realising You Were Never Meant to Stay

One of the most devastating discoveries a survivor can make is this: That the person knew, from the beginning,that they would eventually leave. Not because the relationship might fail.Not because of uncertainty. But because they knew their abusive behaviour would surface again — and they prepared for it. This realisation often feels more shattering than the… Read More The Trauma of Realising You Were Never Meant to Stay

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The Cost of Living From the False Self

A Jungian & Trauma-Informed Perspective The false self is not a lie.It is a survival adaptation. It forms when authenticity feels unsafe — when belonging, attachment, approval, or protection require performance, compliance, emotional suppression, or self-erasure. In Jungian terms, this becomes the persona: the socially acceptable mask we wear to survive, adapt, and belong. In trauma… Read More The Cost of Living From the False Self

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Can You Stay Friends With Your Ex?

Why It’s Impossible With an Abuser A Trauma-Informed Psychological Perspective In healthy breakups, friendship can sometimes develop.In abusive relationships, friendship is not possible — and attempting it often causes ongoing harm. This is not bitterness.It is psychological reality. 1. Friendship Requires Safety — Abuse Destroys Safety True friendship requires: Abuse destroys all five. An abusive dynamic is… Read More Can You Stay Friends With Your Ex?

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A Trauma-Sensitive Explanation for Survivors

Discovering that a partner has been paying for sex can be profoundly destabilizing. It often triggers shock, grief, rage, confusion, humiliation, betrayal, and deep emotional pain — sometimes all at once. This reaction is not dramatic.It is a normal nervous-system response to relational trauma. Why This Hurts So Deeply This kind of discovery doesn’t just break trust.It fractures… Read More A Trauma-Sensitive Explanation for Survivors

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