In relationships, human behaviour often works like a mirror. What we project outward frequently comes back to us in similar form. If we communicate with warmth, openness and respect, those qualities tend to invite the same response. But when we project coldness, distance or hostility, it is not surprising when the response we receive feels… Read More The Energy We Give Is Often the Energy We Receive
Research in Psychology and Neuroscience shows that some abusive or highly narcissistic personalities often become more rigid, angry, and unhappy as they grow older. This pattern is often associated with traits linked to Narcissistic Personality Disorder, though not every abusive person has the disorder. The reason has a lot to do with how their identity and emotional regulation are structured. Why Some… Read More Why Some Abusive Personalities Deteriorate With Age
After an abusive long-term relationship ends, many people notice a striking contrast over time: the survivor gradually becomes stronger and more peaceful, while the abusive partner often becomes more bitter, chaotic, or unstable. Research in Psychology and Neuroscience helps explain why these two paths can diverge so dramatically. 1. The Survivor’s Brain Begins Healing Once the abusive environment is gone,… Read More Survivors Process Reality — Abusers Often Avoid It
When an abusive or highly controlling long-term marriage ends, the psychological processes in the abusive partner’s brain can look very different from those in the person who experienced the abuse. Research in Psychology and Neuroscience shows several patterns that often occur. Not every abusive person reacts the same way, but there are some common dynamics. 1. Loss of Control Triggers… Read More Loss of Control Triggers a Psychological Crisis
When a long-term marriage has been abusive, the emotional and neurological processes are more complex than in a normal breakup. In many cases, the person who experienced the abuse doesn’t immediately move on, even when the relationship was harmful. Research in Neuroscience and Psychology explains several reasons why this happens. 1. The Brain Has Built Deep Neural Bonds A long-term relationship… Read More Identity and Life Narrative Are Entangled
Sometimes when someone pulls away, it doesn’t necessarily mean the feelings were false. In Psychology and Neuroscience, there is a pattern often linked to attachment systems in the brain. A person can feel strong emotions but become overwhelmed when those feelings start to require vulnerability or commitment. Here are three subtle signs that someone may have real feelings but becomes scared… Read More Mixed signals
In the early stages of romance, the brain can create something psychologists sometimes call the “illusion of early love.” It feels incredibly real and powerful, but a lot of it is actually driven by temporary neurochemistry rather than deep emotional knowledge of the other person. Here’s what Neuroscience and Psychology show happens. 1. The Dopamine “Love High” When we meet someone… Read More The Brain’s Fantasy Mechanism
The idea that women know what they want in dating while men say what you want to hear and then withdraw or deny it is a very common experience people report. Psychology and neuroscience suggest there are some real tendencies, but they are patterns, not absolute rules. Both biology and social conditioning play a role. Here are some of… Read More What Men and Women really want!
Many psychologists notice a common relationship dynamic: people who feel emotions deeply often find themselves drawn to partners who are less comfortable with emotional closeness. It doesn’t mean something is wrong with either person — it’s simply a pattern that can happen for understandable reasons. 1. Emotional Depth Can Feel Attractive and Safe People who are… Read More The “Approach and Retreat” Pattern
It can feel confusing when someone goes quiet, especially if the connection felt real. But psychology shows that silence does not always mean lack of feeling. Sometimes it actually happens because someone cares and feels overwhelmed. Here are a few reasons this happens. 💭 1. Emotional Overload When feelings become deep quickly, some people feel emotionally flooded.… Read More Emotional Overload
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 