Absolutely not love—not in any form, not in any universe. What you’re describing is manipulation, neglect, and emotional abuse, not love. Real love is about care, respect, and mutual support. It does not leave you feeling abandoned, isolated, or struggling while someone else prioritizes their own interests or image over your well-being. Love Doesn’t Look Like This:… Read More Absolutely not love
We’ve all encountered them—those individuals who are so wrapped up in their own narratives that they fail to acknowledge or reciprocate genuine care, love, or empathy. No matter what’s happening in your life, they always manage to redirect the focus back to themselves. When you need support, they’re either absent or use the moment to… Read More The “Victim Mentality”
When an abuser goes into therapy, several possible outcomes can unfold, depending on their intentions, willingness to change, and the quality of the therapy they receive. Here are some common scenarios: 1. Genuine Self-Reflection and Change (Rare but Possible) If the abuser truly recognizes their harmful behavior, takes full responsibility, and commits to deep, consistent… Read More When an abuser goes into therapy!
The Illusion of Love: How Toxic Exes Weaponize Affection to Manipulate Love is often seen as a force of healing, growth, and connection. However, when an ex-partner claims to still love someone while engaging in toxic behaviors such as stalking, harassment, or financial abuse, their words become nothing more than a performance. These actions reveal… Read More The Performance of Victimhood
Claiming to Still Love Someone as a Cover for Abuse: The Manipulation Behind False Affection When an abusive person tells friends and family that they still love their former partner, it often serves as a calculated tactic rather than a genuine expression of care. They use these declarations not to show real love but to… Read More The False Narrative of ‘Still Loving’ Someone
Claiming to Have Changed While Continuing Toxic, Stalking, Harassing, and Financially Abusive Behavior When someone claims they have changed but continues to engage in toxic behaviors like stalking, harassment, and financial abuse, their words are meaningless. Real change requires accountability, self-reflection, and tangible actions—not just declarations. Those who continue harmful behaviors while insisting they are… Read More Manipulate Public Perception
If They Claim “I’ve Changed” But There’s No Therapy, No Real Self-Reflection, and No Accountability, They Haven’t Changed—They’ve Just Reset the Game With Someone New Change is a process, not a proclamation. When someone who has engaged in manipulative, abusive, or toxic behavior suddenly declares, “I’ve changed,” yet there is no evidence of deep self-reflection,… Read More The Narcissist’s Rebrand
They Want to Break the Empath’s Spirit (Power & Control) Manipulative and abusive individuals are not always impulsive or unaware of their behavior—many of them deliberately seek to destroy the spirit of kind and empathetic people. Their ultimate goal is to gain complete controlover the empath, making them easier to manipulate, exploit, and dominate. This process is often gradual,… Read More They Slowly Chip Away at the Empath’s Identity
Why Do Cruel & Manipulative People Target Empaths and Kind-Hearted Individuals? It’s a sad reality that some of the most generous, compassionate, and giving people—those who do charity work, help others, and offer unconditional support—are often the biggest targets for manipulative and abusive individuals. From a psychological perspective, this happens because toxic people thrive on control, and empaths… Read More They See Kindness as Weakness (Predatory Thinking)
Not everyone who is violent or abusive wants to change. Many claim they “can’t control it,” but in reality, they often make a choice to continue their behavior. From a psychological perspective, there are several reasons why they choose not to change, even when therapy, support, and second chances are available. 1. They Don’t See a Problem with Their Behavior… Read More Why Do Some Violent, Cruel, and Abusive People Refuse to Change?
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 