Tag: Psychology

Emotional Deadness vs Covert Emotional Neglect

(Internal state → Relational experience) 1. Core state Emotional deadnessA chronically under-activated emotional system. Feelings are dulled, muted, or inaccessible. Covert emotional neglectYour emotional needs are consistently unmet — not through cruelty, but through absence. 2. What it looks like day to day Emotional deadness Flat facial expression Minimal curiosity or joy Rare laughter or play… Read More Emotional Deadness vs Covert Emotional Neglect

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Safe Disengagement When ASPD-Type Dynamics Are Present

When antisocial traits are involved, disengagement is not relational — it is operational.You are not leaving a mutual bond; you are exiting a system where you were an asset. 🧭 Core Shift (This Is Non-Negotiable) You are not dealing with misunderstanding — you are dealing with entitlement. There is no insight coming.There is no repair coming.There is no shared… Read More Safe Disengagement When ASPD-Type Dynamics Are Present

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What is ASPD (Antisocial Personality Disorder)?

Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD) is a clinical diagnosis used to describe a persistent pattern of disregard for the rights, safety, and boundaries of others. It’s not about being “difficult” or having a bad temper. It’s about how someone relates to people, rules, and responsibility over time. Common features include: Repeated lying, manipulation, or deceit Lack of remorse after harming others… Read More What is ASPD (Antisocial Personality Disorder)?

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How Other People’s Agendas Can Distort Separation and Divorce Decisions

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

During separation and divorce, one of the most important — and most difficult — boundaries to hold is this: Do not allow siblings, children, extended family, or friends to sway your decisions simply because they are close to you. Not everyone involved has your best interests at heart — even when they believe they do.… Read More How Other People’s Agendas Can Distort Separation and Divorce Decisions

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Mental cruelty from the family of an abuser — what it is

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

Mental cruelty by an abuser’s family occurs when relatives knowingly or recklessly engage in behaviours that reinforce, enable, excuse, or extend the abuser’s control, causing psychological harm and undermining the victim’s autonomy, safety, or credibility. This is sometimes called: Secondary abuse Proxy abuse Abuse by alliance Relational coercion They may not hit you.They may never… Read More Mental cruelty from the family of an abuser — what it is

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What is the definition of cruelty when it is abuse?

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

Plain-language definition Cruelty is abuse when someone deliberately or repeatedly causes suffering, distress, or harm in order to control, punish, dominate, or diminish another person. The key elements are: Intent or reckless disregard Power imbalance Suffering as a by-product or a tool Pattern, not a one-off mistake Clear definition (psychological + legal overlap) Cruelty in… Read More What is the definition of cruelty when it is abuse?

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ENTITLEMENT vs HEALTHY AUTHORITY (Clinical Comparison)

CORE SELF-STRUCTURE Entitlement Fragile or unstable self-worth Identity requires external validation Power is borrowed from others’ compliance Healthy Authority Integrated, stable self-worth Identity is internally referenced Power is self-contained NERVOUS SYSTEM REGULATION Entitlement Poor internal regulation Uses control, dominance, or compliance to feel safe Boundaries trigger threat responses Healthy Authority Strong internal regulation (ventral vagal)… Read More ENTITLEMENT vs HEALTHY AUTHORITY (Clinical Comparison)

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Clinical comparison: Assertive vs Aggressive

Writing ASSERTIVE TONE (Clinically Regulated) Nervous system Regulated (ventral vagal) Stable breath, steady voice No urgency or pressure Intent To communicate needs, limits, or decisions To preserve mutual dignity To be clear, not to dominate Language “I” statements Behaviour-focused (“I’m not available for X”) Clear, concise, non-defensive Volume & pacing Moderate volume Even pace Allows… Read More Clinical comparison: Assertive vs Aggressive

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Stalking or watching young children — what is it?

It depends on intent, behaviour, and pattern, but persistent watching of children is a major red flag and can fall under criminal behaviour, even before physical contact. When “watching” becomes a concern It is not normal for an adult to: Repeatedly watch specific children Follow children or linger where they play without a clear, legitimate reason Observe children in secretive ways Focus attention… Read More Stalking or watching young children — what is it?

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Cycle of predatory behaviour

Key Warning Signs Multiple relationships with women who have financial resources or assets Pattern of short-lived relationships, often ending when the partner stops contributing Claims of professional status or credentials without verifiable evidence Attempts to separate you from friends or family Minimizes or discourages outside advice, oversight, or accountability Little or no independent assets, property, or stable income Lives… Read More Cycle of predatory behaviour

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