By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate 🎭 “Dying” to Be the Centre of Attention? Be Careful What You Wish For… Sometimes, life really does hand you a story that’s stranger than fiction. One minute, someone is telling you they’re at death’s door… the next, they’re swinging a tennis racket seven days a week… Read More 🎭 “Dying” to Be the Centre of Attention? Be Careful What You Wish For…
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate Why do some abusers intentionally choose significant days — birthdays, holidays, life milestones — to inflict harm?Psychological science and neuroscience offer clear, sobering explanations. The cruelty is often not impulsive.It is a calculated mechanism rooted in disordered emotional regulation, pathological insecurity, and the neurobiology of control. 1. Abuse… Read More The Neuroscience and Psychology Behind Cruelty in Abusers
In the aftermath of emotional abuse or controlling relationships, many survivors describe a strange, almost surreal experience: even when the abuser is gone, the fear remains. The hesitation, the second-guessing, the deep-seated belief that they must ask permission for basic life choices — all of it lingers, like invisible chains wrapped tightly around the mind. This psychological… Read More The Invisible Chains: Understanding Controlling Relationships and the Neuroscience of Healing
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate There’s a rare—and heartbreaking—breed of individual who can snap their fingers and undo decades of shared history. Understanding who they are and how those around them respond can bring clarity and healing. 1. The Personality Behind the Annihilation Narcissistic/Coercively Controlling Tendencies Shame-Avoidance and Instant Retaliation 2. How… Read More The Personality Behind the Annihilation
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate A Truth to Hold Onto They’re not lying because you were the villain.They’re lying because you were good—and they can’t live with the fact that they hurt someone who truly cared. So they rewrite the story.They cast themselves as the victim.And they paint you in whatever colors… Read More A Truth to Hold Onto
At its core, deprivation conditioning refers to how a person (or even an animal) becomes conditioned — psychologically and behaviorally — because of a lack or absence of something essential. In classical behavioral terms, it’s about how deprivation (like lack of food, love, attention, approval, safety, affection, etc.) creates powerful motivations and emotional patterns. The brain adapts to the absence of basic needs… Read More What is Deprivation Conditioning?
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate There’s a powerful phrase that echoes through spiritual teachings, self-help circles, and even casual conversation: “What you put out into the world, you attract back.” While some dismiss it as wishful thinking or metaphysical fluff, modern psychology and neuroscience suggest that there may be more truth in this than… Read More What You Put Out There, You Attract Back: A Psychological and Neuroscientific Perspective
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate After months, years, or even decades of walking on eggshells, feeling hypervigilant, and questioning your own worth… something extraordinary happens: You meet someone who makes you feel safe again. Not just “comfortable.” Not just “nice.” But deeply, profoundly safe. You can breathe. You can exhale. You can stop bracing for… Read More ✨When You Finally Feel Safe Again: The Psychology & Neuroscience of Finding Peace After Trauma✨
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate As I’ve continued on my own healing journey, I’ve been fascinated by the intersection of neuroscience, psychology, and the effects of emotional abuse and lying. These experiences, although deeply painful, have provided me with a unique opportunity to better understand how the brain responds to manipulation, deception,… Read More Understanding the Dynamics of Lying and Emotional Abuse: A Neuroscience and Psychological Perspective
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate Paranoia—whether it manifests as distrust of others, feelings of being watched or judged, or a persistent sense that harm is imminent—can deeply impact a person’s sense of safety and well-being. It’s one of those experiences that can be isolating and distressing, and understanding its roots is key… Read More What Causes Paranoia? A Psychological and Neuroscience Perspective
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