Love is a complex and multifaceted emotion that encompasses a range of feelings, attitudes, and behaviors. It can be experienced in various forms, including romantic love, familial love, platonic love, and self-love. Here are some key aspects of love:
There comes a point in some family relationships when it becomes necessary to stop listening to explanations and start looking at patterns. If decades have passed with no shared holidays, no family celebrations, no meaningful effort to spend time together, no shared Christmases, no birthdays unless you organise and pay for everything yourself, it is… Read More When Decades of Distance Tell Their Own Story
One of the most painful forms of self-deception can occur when a parent desperately wants to believe what their adult child is saying, while ignoring what their adult child’s actions are showing them. Most parents want to see the best in their children. They want to believe the promises, the reassurances, and the comforting words.… Read More When Words and Actions Tell Different Stories
A pattern of judgment, projection, and hypocrisy. When someone says things like “she was never a Samaritan, she was just a gold digger” why would she be interested in someone 25 years her senior? Without evidence, several psychological processes can be at work: Projection People sometimes attribute motives to others that reflect their own way of thinking.… Read More A pattern of judgment, projection, and hypocrisy.
You see an old photograph. A beautiful beach. A mountain village. A bustling city square. A restaurant overlooking the sea. For a moment, your mind remembers the sunshine, the laughter, the excitement of discovering somewhere new. You find yourself talking to a friend about that special place, recalling the scenery, the food, the experience. Then,… Read More When the Mind Plays Tricks: Revisiting Places, Reclaiming Memories
One of the most damaging responses a victim can hear is, “I doubt he’ll kill you.” Most people who say this are not being malicious. They simply cannot imagine that someone they know, a family member, friend, colleague, or neighbour, could be capable of such an act. They judge the situation through the lens of… Read More “I doubt he’ll kill you.”
As I reflect on the last eighteen months, one word keeps coming to mind: gratitude. Not because the journey has been easy. It hasn’t. Not because every person I encountered treated me with kindness. They didn’t. But because every experience, every challenge, every disappointment, and every act of support revealed something important. I am grateful to… Read More Gratitude for the Lessons
There are moments in life when you look around and realise that, despite everything that has happened, you have made it through. This week was one of those moments for me. It was a week filled with simple pleasures and meaningful connections. Meals out at some wonderful restaurants, long conversations with friends, neighbours and special… Read More Living the Dream at Last: Eighteen Months of Letting Go and Moving Forward
Some of the strongest human connections are formed when attraction is not primarily driven by money, status, appearance, or social gain, but by deep neurochemical and emotional bonding. Neuroscience shows that humans are biologically wired for attachment. In genuinely intense connections, the brain’s reward, safety, and bonding systems can become highly synchronized between two people.… Read More Deep neurochemical and emotional bonding.
The psychological term most often linked to “love at first sight” is “instant attraction” or “limerence” when the feelings become intense, obsessive, and emotionally consuming. In neuroscience and psychology, researchers also talk about rapid romantic attachment or thin-slice attraction — where the brain forms powerful impressions within seconds. From a neuroscience perspective, something very real does happen, although scientists debate whether it is truly “love”… Read More Limerence
If you are feeling emotionally overwhelmed, stuck in painful relationship patterns, struggling with grief, or finding it difficult to move forward after emotional or relational stress — you are not alone, and change is possible. What you are experiencing is not weakness. It is your nervous system doing exactly what it was designed to do… Read More Rewire, Regulate, Rebuild
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 