Why You Feel More in 12 Months Than in 32 Years After Leaving an Abuser

1. Your Nervous System Is Coming Back Online In long-term abuse, your nervous system lives in survival mode. Instead of: feel → process → release Your brain switches to: detect danger → suppress emotion → endure → survive This is driven by: This leads to: Functional emotional shutdown You weren’t emotionless.You were neurologically constrained. When you leave,… Read More Why You Feel More in 12 Months Than in 32 Years After Leaving an Abuser

February 14, 2026February 14, 2026 Linda C J TurnerLeave a comment

What’s Really Going On (Psychology + Neuroscience)

When someone lies, is confronted, and then: This is called: 🔴 DARVO DenyAttackReverse Victim and Offender It’s a classic defense pattern used when a person cannot tolerate accountability. The Psychology Behind It 1. Ego Protection & Shame Avoidance When a person lies, their brain experiences: Instead of tolerating these emotions, their psyche externalizes blame. So instead of: “I lied and feel… Read More What’s Really Going On (Psychology + Neuroscience)

February 13, 2026 Linda C J TurnerLeave a comment

Why Post-Trauma Women Attract Emotionally Immature Men

The Neuroscience & Psychology Behind This Pattern After trauma — especially relational trauma — a woman’s nervous system becomes highly sensitised to emotional cues. This creates both profound emotional intelligence and temporary vulnerability. And emotionally immature men are drawn to that combination. 1. Trauma Creates Emotional Depth — Which Immature Men Seek Post-trauma women often develop: Emotionally immature men lack these… Read More Why Post-Trauma Women Attract Emotionally Immature Men

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Where Women Go After Traumatic Divorce

And What They Are Truly Looking For in a Partner After a traumatic divorce — especially one involving emotional abuse, control, betrayal, or prolonged stress — a woman’s entire nervous system reorganises. She is no longer seeking excitement. She is seeking safety, peace, and restoration of self. 1. Where Women Go First: Inward Before turning outward, most… Read More Where Women Go After Traumatic Divorce

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Why Men Seek Caregiving-Based Cultures Later in Life

And How Power vs Safety Motives Differ This shift is not random, not shallow, and not primarily sexual. It reflects deep neurological and psychological changes that occur with age, trauma, and life experience. PART 1 Why Men Seek Caregiving-Based Cultures Later in Life 1. The Nervous System Changes With Age As men age, their brains gradually shift… Read More Why Men Seek Caregiving-Based Cultures Later in Life

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Why Control-Based Personalities Escalate Sexual Threats

The Neuroscience & Psychology Behind This Behaviour When someone repeatedly escalates sexual threats — suggesting replacement, sexual outsourcing, or access to others — this is not about desire. It is about power regulation. Sex becomes a tool of control, not a form of connection. 1. Control-Based Nervous Systems Fear Vulnerability Healthy intimacy requires: For control-based personalities, vulnerability feels… Read More Why Control-Based Personalities Escalate Sexual Threats

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When They Repeatedly Threaten to Replace You

The Neuroscience & Psychology of Power, Control, and Emotional Evasion When someone repeatedly says they will go abroad to “find someone who will do anything and everything for them,” discusses it openly with friends, searches flights and accommodation, and then denies it when confronted, this is not casual talk. This is psychological positioning. And neuroscience explains exactly… Read More When They Repeatedly Threaten to Replace You

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“I’m Better on My Own”

Why People Tell You Early — and Why We Don’t Listen There is a sentence people sometimes offer early in connection: “I’m better on my own.”“I’m not good in relationships.”“I can’t really do commitment.”“I’m not built for emotional closeness.” These are not throwaway lines. They are micro-confessions. Psychology calls this pre-emptive disclosure.Neuroscience calls it threat discharge. It is… Read More “I’m Better on My Own”

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The Psychology & Neuroscience of Love-Bombing

What it is, why it works, and what it often predicts Love-bombing is the rapid delivery of intense affection, attention, praise, promises, and emotional closeness early in a relationship. It feels intoxicating, validating, and deeply bonding. But neuroscience shows this isn’t accidental — it is neurochemical manipulation, whether conscious or unconscious. 1. Dopamine & Attachment Hijacking Love-bombing… Read More The Psychology & Neuroscience of Love-Bombing

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Beware the Family Who Worships Image Over Integrity

A Neuroscience and Psychology Perspective Beware entering a family system that places image, status, and appearance above truth, ethics, and emotional responsibility. Because sooner or later, the very moral code they use to impress the outside world will be turned inward — and used against you. At first, such families can appear impressive.Successful. Respected. Polished.They… Read More Beware the Family Who Worships Image Over Integrity

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