Your daughter’s kindness and willingness to shoulder expenses, even for him, despite his lack of gratitude, is admirable. It must sting to see her extend such thoughtfulness while he fails to reciprocate or appreciate it. The fact that he chastised your grandchildren for wasting food or drink they didn’t even cost him adds another layer of unnecessary negativity and unfairness to the situation.

What’s particularly unjust is how your money—your hard-earned savings—is being used by him to present a facade of generosity, all while he monitors or restricts your ability to give freely to your own family. This dynamic seems deeply imbalanced and unfair. It robs you of the freedom to express your love and care through gifts or support, creating unnecessary tension and resentment.… Read More Exploiting Generosity