Abuse is a term that refers to the mistreatment, harm, or infliction of injury on someone, either through physical, emotional, verbal, sexual, or other means. Abuse can occur in various contexts, including relationships, families, institutions, and broader social settings. It is a serious violation of an individual’s rights and can have profound and lasting effects on their physical, emotional, and psychological well-being.
Abusers don’t just lie to you — they often lie about you, especially to your friends, family, colleagues, or community. This is a deliberate form of character assassination, and it’s often part of a larger strategy called “DARVO”: Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender. The goal?To discredit you before you tell the truth, so that when you do speak out, people doubt… Read More DARVO
Abuse doesn’t just happen in the shadows.It’s carefully concealed with lies.And many abusers are pathological liars — compulsively distorting reality to protect themselves and isolate their victims. Lying isn’t just what they do.It’s how they control the narrative.It’s how they stay hidden.It’s how they keep you confused, apologizing, and questioning your own memory. And worst of all?It’s how they convince everyone else that they’re… Read More 🧠 Most Abusers Are Pathological Liars — And That’s How They Get Away With It
Let’s be clear: You shouldn’t. When abuse becomes physical, it becomes dangerous. Life-threatening. Non-negotiable. I speak from lived experience — not theory, not speculation.And I’m here to tell you the hard truth many don’t want to say out loud: Physical abuse doesn’t just “happen.” It escalates. Do not wait for it to “get better.” Do not wait for… Read More ❌ How Many Times Should You Forgive Someone Who Has Physically Abused You?
It’s one of the most damaging myths survivors are told: “You just need to kiss and make up.”“All couples fight — you just have to let it go.”“Stop bringing up the past.” No. Let’s get one thing absolutely clear. An argument is a disagreement.Abuse is a pattern of power, control, and harm. ☑️ Arguments happen between… Read More Let’s Get One Thing Clear: A Fight is One Thing. Abuse is Something Else.
I haven’t changed — I’ve come home to who I’ve always been.Raised by a strong, no-nonsense single mother who walked away from two abusive marriages, I was taught early that violence, control, and manipulation are never love — they are never to be tolerated. In our home, truth was everything.Even when it was hard.Even when it meant… Read More 🌱 From Confusion to Clarity: A Life Built on Truth
A personal story of survival, silence, and reclaiming power. On October 16th, my life changed. That night, after a physically abusive incident, he left the house — not in shame, not in reflection, not to apologize —But to go out on the town.To join his friends.To sit in a bar, drink, laugh, and socialize as if nothing had happened —As… Read More 💔 The End of the Beginning
There he was. Sitting snug in his new suit, as if he were heading to a job interview rather than standing trial for abuse. Flanked by people who looked straight ahead, pretending not to know, not to feel, not to squirm under the weight of the truth that had finally made its way into the… Read More The Suit Didn’t Save Him: What a Courtroom Can’t Hide
Yes, and here’s how it typically works: ✅ Can You Include Harassment from Other Family Members? Absolutely. If their harassment is connected to the original offense (e.g., trying to silence you, discredit you, or continue the abuse by proxy), you should include it. You can also mention: 📨 What About Insulting Emails and Texts? Yes, those can be… Read More 🧾 Can You Submit a Victim Impact Statement in Spain?
A victim impact statement is a written or verbal account given by a victim (or survivor) to the court, often during sentencing or parole hearings. It’s your opportunity to express: It is not a place to prove guilt—that’s the prosecution’s role—but rather a space to have your voice heard, formally and powerfully. 🧨 Why Include “Threats”? When someone tells you… Read More 📝 What Is a Victim Impact Statement?
There was a time when I stayed quiet.When I second-guessed myself.When I minimized the abuse because “he hadn’t hit me this time” or “maybe it’s not serious enough to report.” Those days are over. Because now, I know what abuse looks like in all its forms — the psychological games, the control, the obsession, the stalking, the breaking of boundaries… Read More 🚫 I Will Not Stop Reporting Him — Because the Silence is What Kept Me Trapped
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 