Abuse is a term that refers to the mistreatment, harm, or infliction of injury on someone, either through physical, emotional, verbal, sexual, or other means. Abuse can occur in various contexts, including relationships, families, institutions, and broader social settings. It is a serious violation of an individual’s rights and can have profound and lasting effects on their physical, emotional, and psychological well-being.
A Psychological Look at Isolation in Abusive Relationships By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate One of the most heartbreaking and misunderstood aspects of surviving abuse—especially emotional and psychological abuse—is the quiet disappearance of long-term friends and loved ones. People who knew you for years, sometimes decades, seem to vanish from your life. And… Read More What Happened to All Your Long-Term Friends?
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate Abuse doesn’t always end with the abuser. Sometimes, the more devastating betrayal comes from those you least expect—family who choose silence, denial, or outright complicity over truth and protection. Whether it’s out of fear, loyalty, self-preservation, or even greed, their collusion can have life-altering consequences for the victim.… Read More When Silence Becomes Complicity: The Legal and Emotional Cost of Family Collusion in Abuse
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate It’s one of the hardest truths to face: That the person we love—or once loved—is hurting us. Not by accident. Not in passing. But deeply, consistently, and often—intentionally. And yet, for many survivors of emotionally abusive relationships or trauma bonds, this truth remains buried for years, even… Read More 🧠💔 The Terrifying Truth: Why It Feels So Dangerous to Admit That Someone We Love Is Hurting Us
⚠️ When Relatives Threaten Legal Action Before Divorce: A Coercive Control Tactic in Disguise ⚠️What it really means — and why you don’t have to play along. It’s one of the cruelest things someone can do when you’re already vulnerable:Before the ink is dry… before legal proceedings have even begun… a relative of your ex steps in — not… Read More ⚠️ When Relatives Threaten Legal Action Before Divorce: A Coercive Control Tactic in Disguise ⚠️
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate If love alone could change abusive people, the world would be filled with fewer survivors of domestic violence, narcissistic abuse, and toxic relationships. The painful truth is that abusers rarely stop their harmful behavior, even when they see the pain they cause. If love were the solution,… Read More Why Love Alone Doesn’t Heal Abusers: Understanding from a Psychological and Neuroscience Perspective
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate When you’re caught in an abusive relationship, the mentality of the abuser can be just as harmful as the abuse itself. It’s not just the physical, emotional, or financial control they exert, but the underlying psychology and neuroscience that shape their behavior. I’ve lived through this first-hand,… Read More Understanding the Abuser’s Mentality: A Neuroscience and Psychological Perspective
By Linda C J Turner Therapy Abuse is not just an event — it’s a pattern. A cycle. A wound that often repeats itself across time, generations, and relationships, unless it’s consciously interrupted. Breaking this cycle takes more than leaving a situation; it requires reclaiming power, rewriting inner narratives, and rebuilding a deep sense of… Read More Breaking the Cycle of Abuse: A Psychological Perspective on Healing and Empowerment
Understanding the Psychological Consequences of Having Your Reality RewrittenBy Linda C J Turner Therapy “When someone controls the way you see the world, they control the way you see yourself.” In the shadowy world of emotional and psychological abuse, there is one form of control that is particularly chilling: perspecticide. Unlike overt violence, perspecticide is quiet.… Read More The Impact of Perspecticide: Reclaiming Reality After Emotional Erosion
You did not cause their behavior.You could not have prevented it.And it is not your job to heal them. Abuse—whether emotional, physical, verbal, or psychological—is always a choice, no matter what pain or past the abuser may carry. There is no excuse. Only context. And context does not excuse cruelty. 🧠 So Why Don’t Abusers… Read More 💔 First, Let’s Say This Loudly:
1. Ensure Your Immediate Safety 2. Do NOT Alter the Evidence 3. Give the Phone to the Police for Safe Keeping 4. Ask for a Crime Reference Number 5. Seek Legal or Advocacy Support You’re not alone, and you don’t have to handle this by yourself. 🔐 If the Phone Isn’t Yours (Important Note) If the phone belongs to someone else—especially… Read More 🚨 Step-by-Step: If You Find Incriminating Evidence on a Phone
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 