Abuse is a term that refers to the mistreatment, harm, or infliction of injury on someone, either through physical, emotional, verbal, sexual, or other means. Abuse can occur in various contexts, including relationships, families, institutions, and broader social settings. It is a serious violation of an individual’s rights and can have profound and lasting effects on their physical, emotional, and psychological well-being.
By Linda C J Turner Therapy They smiled in public, raised funds for hospitals, entertained children, and won the hearts of a nation. Jimmy Savile and Rolf Harris were household names, adored and admired. They were awarded titles, granted access to the most vulnerable, and elevated to near-sainthood in the public eye. And yet, beneath… Read More The Mask of Deception: How Abusers Fool the World
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate One of the more covert forms of post-separation abuse is when the abuser steps back and sends a third party—often a family member—to “mediate” or “calmly” communicate on their behalf. On the surface, these messages may appear rational, reasonable, even compassionate. But beneath that façade lies a… Read More The Calm Messenger: When Abusers Send Family to Do Their Bidding
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate When survivors of abuse begin to break free—whether through physical distance, legal steps like divorce, or emotional detachment—it is not uncommon to receive heartfelt, emotional, and seemingly repentant messages from their former partner. These messages are often laced with promises, declarations of love, and dreams of a… Read More The Illusion of Change: Understanding Manipulative Messaging After Abuse
On October 16th, After the abuse I left the marital home and I filed for divorce. By October 17th, I had contacted the Delegation del Gobierno contra la Violencia de Género to report the abuse—something I had endured for far too long. The very next day, on October 18th, he changed his will. I did not leave in… Read More When Control Slips: The Will, the Divorce, and the Final Act of Retaliation
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate For years, I lived in a fog of deception, manipulation, and control.At first, I couldn’t see it — how could I?When you are deeply embedded in an environment built on lies, secrecy, and emotional deprivation, it becomes your “normal.” You stop questioning it. You stop questioning them.And… Read More From Denial to Freedom: Recognizing Psychological Abuse and Reclaiming Joy
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate They say love is patient, kind, and supportive.But what happens when the person who once said “I love you” begins to dismantle your life piece by piece — emotionally, financially, and psychologically? That’s not love.That’s control.That’s abuse. And when it’s masked under the language of affection or… Read More When Love Becomes Control: A Psychological Perspective on Betrayal and Financial Abuse
[Your Name][Your Address][City, Postcode][Phone Number][Email Address][Date] To:[Officer’s Name, if known][Police Department Name][Police Department Address] Dear Officer [Name] / To Whom It May Concern, I am writing to formally report concerns regarding the treatment of [Name of Victim, if known] by [Name of Abuser, if known], based on incidents I have personally witnessed [or: been informed… Read More 📄 Sample Letter to Police Reporting Cruelty Toward Another Person
[Your Name][Your Address][City, Postcode][Phone Number][Email Address][Date] To:[Officer’s Name, if known][Police Department Name][Police Department Address] Dear Officer [Name] / To Whom It May Concern, I am writing to formally report incidents of physical abuse committed against me by [Abuser’s Full Name], [their date of birth if known]. During the course of our relationship [or: during the… Read More 📄 Sample Letter to Police Reporting Physical Abuse
Here’s a sample letter you could adapt if you decide to report the discovery to the police.(You can edit it to fit your exact situation.) 📄 Sample Letter to Police Reporting Discovery of Degrading Pornography by Abuser [Your Name][Your Address][City, Postcode][Phone Number][Email Address][Date] To:[Officer’s Name, if known][Police Department Name][Police Department Address] Dear Officer [Name or… Read More Sample Letter 1
Short answer:➡️ It depends on the context, the type of material, and your safety. Let’s break it down carefully: 1. What Kind of Pornography Are We Talking About? Not all pornography, even degrading types, is illegal.However, some types are illegal and absolutely should be reported — for example: If what you found falls into any of these categories, it should absolutely… Read More Should You Report It?
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 