Abuse is a term that refers to the mistreatment, harm, or infliction of injury on someone, either through physical, emotional, verbal, sexual, or other means. Abuse can occur in various contexts, including relationships, families, institutions, and broader social settings. It is a serious violation of an individual’s rights and can have profound and lasting effects on their physical, emotional, and psychological well-being.
When bullying, abuse, and harassment “run in the family,” you’re not dealing with isolated bad behaviour — you’re dealing with a relational system that has normalised cruelty as a way of bonding, regulating power, and enforcing loyalty. This is recognised in psychology, trauma work, and increasingly in law. What it actually means when abuse runs in a family It… Read More Keeping it in the family
Mental cruelty by an abuser’s family occurs when relatives knowingly or recklessly engage in behaviours that reinforce, enable, excuse, or extend the abuser’s control, causing psychological harm and undermining the victim’s autonomy, safety, or credibility. This is sometimes called: They may not hit you.They may never raise their voice.But the harm is systemic and strategic. How… Read More Mental cruelty from the family of an abuser — what it is
Core difference (in one line) Both are abuse.Both are legally relevant.Neither requires “bad intentions” — only harm + pattern. 1. Physical cruelty Definition Physical cruelty is the intentional or reckless infliction of bodily harm, pain, or physical intimidation to control, punish, or dominate another person. What it looks like Key features Legal clarity 📌 Law focuses on:… Read More Physical cruelty vs Mental (psychological) cruelty
Here’s why, clearly and without myth. 1. Strength Looks Like a Resource to a Predator Abusive personalities don’t look for “weakness” in the way people imagine. They scan for: To them, this signals: “This person can absorb pressure, adapt, and keep functioning.” That’s not romance. That’s resource assessment. 2. Intelligence Enables Rationalisation (Early On) Highly intelligent… Read More Strong, intelligent women are not targeted despite their strength.They are often targeted because of it.
This is a hard question — and an important one.The short answer is: women don’t stay because they’re weak, they stay because abuse hijacks biology, psychology, economics, and safety all at once. Here’s the full picture, without blaming or myths. 1. Abuse rewires the brain (this is neuroscience, not choice) Abusive relationships often create trauma bonds. What’s… Read More Why so many women stay?
Why Police Protection is Paramount ⚖️ Why Courts Remain Vigilant 🧠 Why Restraining Orders Remain in Place 🔑 Integrated Insight In short: these protections are the structural “shock absorbers” that allow extinction bursts to fail safely.
This manoeuvre has a name and a function. What this tactic is called It sits at the intersection of: In domestic-abuse and coercive-control literature, it’s often described as“restricting the victim’s social world to control the narrative.” What’s really happening psychologically When someone says something like: “I don’t think it’s a good idea for your sister-in-law… Read More Threat Detection
1. Why Courts Deny Appeals to Drop Restraining Orders Courts rarely remove restraining orders lightly because the safety of the protected person is paramount. Before considering removal, they typically review: Courts are not punitive against the person restricted; they are preventive, focusing on reducing risk. 2. Why Dropping a Restraining Order Can Be Dangerous Even if someone seems… Read More Rejected Appeals
There was never anyone else.I returned from holiday with my family — my children and grandchildren. Nothing more, nothing hidden. The idea of a “mystery man” was a story used to discredit me. In reality, he had another partner while using my hard-earned money and restricting my access to my own finances. For decades, I… Read More Calm truth
One of the reasons many survivors don’t speak out sooner is simple:they already know they won’t be supported. In some families, the abuse isn’t a secret.It has been seen before.Hints have been dropped.Incidents have been witnessed, minimised, or quietly explained away. Instead of intervening, the family: This silence isn’t neutral.It’s a choice. Why This Keeps… Read More When Families Know About Abuse
