Category: LINDA C J TURNER – Trauma Therapist

Stalking or watching young children — what is it?

It depends on intent, behaviour, and pattern, but persistent watching of children is a major red flag and can fall under criminal behaviour, even before physical contact. When “watching” becomes a concern It is not normal for an adult to: When this happens, it is often classified as predatory surveillance. Possible legal classifications (vary by country) Depending on behaviour and evidence, authorities may classify… Read More Stalking or watching young children — what is it?

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Grooming of minors

What it is:A deliberate process where an adult (or older youth) builds trust with a child to prepare them for sexual exploitation. How it happens: Key legal point:👉 Grooming itself is a crime, even before any sexual images, contact, or abuse occur. Intent matters, not whether the child “agreed” or understood. Sextortion of minors What it is:Using sexual images, videos, or messages… Read More Grooming of minors

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What is Normal?

Normal” is a myth invented by people with too much free time. My version: surviving life, laughing at everything that should probably make me cry, and occasionally pretending I have my stuff together. Spoiler: it works better than pretending to be normal ever did.

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Regulate, Repair, and stay Resilient.

Staying physically and mentally healthy is a cornerstone of trauma recovery. Recovery isn’t just emotional; the body and mind need support to regulate, repair, and stay resilient. Here’s a structured approach for maintaining wellness during recovery: 1. Medical Health Regular check-ups keep you grounded and prevent neglect of your body: Consistency reinforces a sense of control over… Read More Regulate, Repair, and stay Resilient.

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Memory & Trauma Processing

Alcohol can have a profound and often counterproductive impact on trauma recovery, both neurologically and psychologically. Here’s a detailed breakdown: 1. Nervous System Impact Trauma leaves the nervous system hypervigilant. Alcohol: 2. Memory & Trauma Processing Essentially, alcohol blocks the brain from integrating the trauma safely. 3. Emotional Dysregulation 4. Interpersonal Impact 5. Risk of Re-traumatization 6. Why… Read More Memory & Trauma Processing

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What “messing up” in trauma really is

When you’re traumatised, your nervous system is not choosing behaviour — it’s protecting you. So what looks like “wrecking the relationship” is often: None of this is character failure.It’s unhealed threat memory meeting intimacy. Why trauma sabotages something that matters Trauma does three things in relationships: 1. It mistakes closeness for danger When connection deepens, the body remembers:… Read More What “messing up” in trauma really is

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Trauma Bonding vs Healthy Attraction

(How it feels in the body, mind, and nervous system) 🧠 Nervous System Trauma Bonding Healthy Attraction Key question:Do they regulate me — or do I regulate myself? ❤️ Emotional Experience Trauma Bonding Healthy Attraction Key question:Is this intensity or intimacy? 🧱 Boundaries Trauma Bonding Healthy Attraction Key question:Am I staying aligned with myself? 🔄… Read More Trauma Bonding vs Healthy Attraction

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Dating While Healing — Self-Check

Pause. Breathe. Answer honestly. No explanations required. 🧠 Nervous System Check If calm feels “boring” or unsettling, that may be trauma, not incompatibility. ❤️ Attachment Check Healthy attraction grows; trauma attachment accelerates. 🧱 Boundary Check If a boundary feels like rejection, pause — that’s old wiring speaking. 🪞Self-Respect Check Connection should expand you, not eclipse… Read More Dating While Healing — Self-Check

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