Let’s get one thing very clear. Illness — physical or mental — does NOT excuse abuse.Cancer does not excuse abuse.Grief does not excuse abuse.Stress does not excuse abuse.Trauma does not excuse abuse.A “bad time” does not excuse abuse. Abuse is not a symptom.It is not a coping mechanism.It is not caused by pain, loss, or diagnosis.… Read More Illness Does Not Excuse Abuse

I keep seeing apps and posts asking:“Was it my fault?”“How do I get him back?”“What did I do wrong?” Let me be very clear. If abuse, control, coercion, intimidation, or violence are present —this is NOT a relationship problem.It is NOT a communication issue.And it is NOT something an app, quiz, or checklist can fix. Abuse is not caused by asking the wrong questions, saying… Read More This Is Not a Relationship Problem — It’s Abuse

1. Who these scammers are (male & female) These individuals: Appear legitimate: well-spoken, educated, socially skilled Often middle-aged or older, fitting the demographic they target Can hold short-term respectable jobs (consulting, aviation, shipping, property, offshore work, engineering, “international roles”) Frequently move between locations and leave little paper trail They embed themselves physically in: Affluent towns… Read More The hook

More and more things continue to come to light — letters from people he knew in France, quiet disclosures, fragments of a past that was never fully visible. I lived with a man for 32 years and yet there were entire parts of his life I never truly knew. Only rumours — the ones I… Read More Clarity

Statement of Record (Supplemental) During a visit by my cousin, a tax rebate that I had paid was taken without my knowledge or consent. That rebate was then quietly passed to my nephew, with the instruction that it be paid into his daughter’s bank account. This was done covertly and without disclosure to me at… Read More Tax rebate

Living beyond your means at the expense of your partner is not generosity — it is entitlement. If I had not paid off his mortgage, he could not have afforded luxury trips, including taking his children to Florida. He could have afforded to remain in his home, but not the lifestyle he chose. He refused… Read More Living beyond your means

When children who have had precious little to do with a parent for years suddenly reappear, urgently pressing for him to sell the house, it tells its own story. For years, he used to say, “If anything ever happens to me, my children will look after you.” I always begged to differ — because words… Read More Lack of empathy

For the avoidance of any doubt: Any appearance at my door, gate, boundary, or immediate vicinity of my home after receipt of this notice constitutes a deliberate breach of my expressed lack of consent and will be treated as evidence of intentional unlawful entry or harassment, thereby strengthening my legal position in any police or… Read More ADDENDUM – LEGAL EFFECT OF THIS NOTICE

Single… On Purpose Single — until someone proves they’re serious. Too seasoned for “let’s see where this goes.” This is not a road trip. Commitment isn’t optional. Respect isn’t negotiable. Time is too precious to waste on uncertainty. Knowing what you want means waiting for it — and not settling for less.