Category: LINDA C J TURNER – Trauma Therapist

Power of Attorney + Struck-Off Solicitors: A Major Red Flag

If you are being encouraged to grant Power of Attorney to anyone connected to a struck-off solicitor, stop immediately. This is not a technical detail.This is a risk issue. Why This Matters A solicitor is usually struck off for serious breaches — dishonesty, misuse of client funds, fraud, or abuse of trust.That history does not disappear just because they are now acting “informally”… Read More Power of Attorney + Struck-Off Solicitors: A Major Red Flag

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If You Feel Pressured or Intimidated by Family — Read This

If family members are pushing you to sell property, move money, or make fast financial decisions during separation, stop and breathe. Pressure is not protection. If advice feels rushed, controlling, or fear-based, it is not about your wellbeing — even if it is framed as “help.” Quiet Red Flags to Notice Support should calm your nervous… Read More If You Feel Pressured or Intimidated by Family — Read This

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Watch for Familiar Family Patterns of Financial Control

Before you agree to sell, transfer, divide, or “protect” assets, take a hard look at family history — not just the current situation. Patterns repeat. 🚩 Ask This First: Is there a history in this family of taking control of other people’s: If the answer is yes — pause immediately. ⚠️ A Common Disguise: “We’re Just Protecting You”… Read More Watch for Familiar Family Patterns of Financial Control

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READ THIS BEFORE SELLING ANYTHING

(Property, assets, investments — anything) If you are newly separated or divorcing, do not sell, divide, or sign away assets while in emotional shock. Read the following slowly. 🚫 Stop Immediately If: ❗ Reality Check Urgency around selling assets is almost never about your wellbeing.It is usually about: That is self-interest, not care. 🧠 Ask Yourself These… Read More READ THIS BEFORE SELLING ANYTHING

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Red Flags Checklist: Healthy Discussion vs Unhealthy Pressure During Separation

🟢 Healthy Discussions Look Like: 🔴 Unhealthy Pressure Looks Like: ⚠️ Key Reality Check Healthy support does not rush irreversible decisions.Unhealthy influence creates urgency where none legally exists. If slowing down is met with anger, manipulation, or withdrawal of support — that is not guidance. That is control. Use this checklist as a grounding tool… Read More Red Flags Checklist: Healthy Discussion vs Unhealthy Pressure During Separation

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How Other People’s Agendas Can Distort Separation and Divorce Decisions

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

During separation and divorce, one of the most important — and most difficult — boundaries to hold is this: Do not allow siblings, children, extended family, or friends to sway your decisions simply because they are close to you. Not everyone involved has your best interests at heart — even when they believe they do.… Read More How Other People’s Agendas Can Distort Separation and Divorce Decisions

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The core principle

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

Therapy is for truth.Law is for proof.Public statements are for boundaries. You do not owe full truth to every arena. 1. What to keep THERAPEUTIC ONLY  These are essential for healing but usually not necessary or wise to share publicly or legally. Keep in therapy: 📌 Why: ✔️ You can show the messages to your psychologist❌ You don’t need to turn your pain into… Read More The core principle

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The core truth (clinically & legally sound)

Naming behaviour you previously ignored does not create harm — it reveals it.When a psychologist helps you identify that certain behaviours were harassment, bullying, or rights violations, that is reality integration, not exaggeration. This process: Many survivors only realise after safety is established: “What I tolerated wasn’t conflict — it was abuse.” That realisation is healing, not hostility. Why… Read More The core truth (clinically & legally sound)

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Keeping it in the family

When bullying, abuse, and harassment “run in the family,” you’re not dealing with isolated bad behaviour — you’re dealing with a relational system that has normalised cruelty as a way of bonding, regulating power, and enforcing loyalty. This is recognised in psychology, trauma work, and increasingly in law. What it actually means when abuse runs in a family It… Read More Keeping it in the family

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Harassment or bullying by an abuser’s family when there is a restraining order in place is taken very seriously.

Here’s the clear, grounded breakdown — legally and practically. 1. Core rule (this matters most) A restraining order cannot be bypassed through family, friends, or third parties. If the family: 👉 This may constitute a breach of the restraining order by proxy. Courts call this indirect contact or contact through third parties. 2. What counts as harassment/bullying in this… Read More Harassment or bullying by an abuser’s family when there is a restraining order in place is taken very seriously.

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