🌱 Some soften instead of breaking. 🔁 Some break the cycles handed to them. 🏡 Some build safe spaces where none existed. 🔥 Some turn pain into purpose. 💗 Hurt people don’t just hurt — they heal. They choose compassion over cruelty, awareness over reaction, wisdom over resentment. ✨ Their scars don’t harden them —… Read More Not all hurt people hurt people.
I’ve been doing EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) once a month for nearly a year now. Each session starts with revisiting one of the most painful memories from my past and working to process and calm the nervous system around it. The goal isn’t to erase my memories entirely — it’s to reduce their… Read More Revisiting painful memories
No one is born abusive. Abuse is learned, shaped by experience, environment, and choices. People are born with needs for love, safety, and connection — not control, cruelty, or manipulation. Abuse usually develops from a mix of: Early trauma or neglect – witnessing or experiencing harm can normalize aggression Learned behaviour – copying unhealthy patterns… Read More We are not born abusive
Abuse doesn’t come from strength — it comes from unresolved damage. Physical, emotional, and financial abuse often stem from the same root: a need for power and control. That need usually develops when someone has never learned healthy ways to regulate emotions, tolerate vulnerability, or respect autonomy. Abusive behaviour is commonly shaped by: Early exposure… Read More Abuse is learned
Every change I make in my life now is my own decision.Every piece of furniture. Every holiday. Every friend. Every meal. No more “we can’t afford it.”No more “you can’t have that.”No more “I don’t like it, so we’re not doing it.”No more control, no more guilt, no more manipulation. Just me — choosing freely, living honestly, and… Read More No No No
Inappropriate behaviour and crude talk aren’t confidence, humour, or honesty — they’re a lack of self-awareness.There’s a difference between being open and being disrespectful, between playful conversation and crossing boundaries. Not everyone finds sexualised comments, sexist remarks, or suggestive behaviour acceptable — and that doesn’t make someone uptight or boring. It simply means they value… Read More manners
We study psychology to heal ourselves. Not because we are broken— but because we are brave enough to look inward. We learn the language of trauma so we can name what once silenced us. We study patterns so we stop repeating pain we didn’t choose. We learn boundaries because love without limits once cost us… Read More Studying
Kindness is rarely born from comfort. More often, it grows out of pain. Neuroscience shows that those who have experienced rejection, loss, betrayal, or prolonged emotional stress develop heightened emotional awareness. They know, at a cellular level, what it feels like to be unseen, unheard, dismissed, or broken. And many make a conscious choice not… Read More kindness
Not everyone will like you when you start respecting yourself.Some people were only comfortable with you when they could control you, use you, or keep you confused. When you set boundaries, their influence weakens.When you say no, you protect your energy.When you see clearly, manipulation no longer has a place. Discomfort and dislike often appear… Read More Respect
If you loved me, you would forgive me and stop digging up the past.”This sentence is often used to silence, not to heal. Let’s get one thing straight:You are not “digging up the past” when you are still living in it. Psychology: Why this phrase is manipulative In healthy relationships, accountability comes before forgiveness. In abusive… Read More Digging up the past
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 