“This Isn’t New — It’s the Same Game in a Different Arena”Why Long-Term Mind Games Continue After Separation

When you’ve lived with decades of psychological manipulation, the most destabilising part isn’t the behaviour itself. It’s the moment you realise:This is just a continuation of the same pattern. Different setting.Different language.Same impact on your nervous system. That recognition is not bitterness.It’s pattern recognition. What Kind of Person Does This? From a trauma-informed and neuroscience perspective,… Read More “This Isn’t New — It’s the Same Game in a Different Arena”Why Long-Term Mind Games Continue After Separation

How to Deal With This Without Going Crazy(A Trauma-Informed, Neuroscience-Based Guide)

First, an important reframe: If you feel anxious, angry, hyper-alert, exhausted, or mentally foggy in this situation, you are not “going crazy.”Your nervous system is responding normally to an abnormal level of prolonged uncertainty and control. The goal is not to “stay calm.”The goal is to stay regulated enough to function and protect yourself. 1. Stop Treating This… Read More How to Deal With This Without Going Crazy(A Trauma-Informed, Neuroscience-Based Guide)

If your abuser shows up — step-by-step plan (Spain-adapted)

Immediate safety (first 60 seconds) If the person attempts to force entry4. Lock doors and move to a safe room. If they enter without consent (trespassing / allanamiento de morada)7. Call 112/091/062 immediately and say: If violence or threat occurs8. Prioritize physical safety. Get yourself and any children/pets out if you can do so safely. If escape is unsafe,… Read More If your abuser shows up — step-by-step plan (Spain-adapted)

Safety + empowerment + vigilance + recovery.

Just because you’re feeling great, fantastic, renewed… don’t lose sight of the truth:your abusers will not be feeling the same. And that’s exactly why you stay grounded, steady, and smart. Healing does not mean becoming careless.Freedom does not mean forgetting what you survived.Confidence does not mean abandoning caution. This is the chapter where you rise… Read More Safety + empowerment + vigilance + recovery.

🇪🇸 DIVORCE IN SPAIN INVOLVING DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

When a divorce in Spain involves domestic violence (“violencia de género”), the process is handled with special legal protections and urgency to safeguard the victim. Below is a clear overview of how it works — legally, practically, and emotionally. 🇪🇸 DIVORCE IN SPAIN INVOLVING DOMESTIC VIOLENCE 1. Immediate Protection Comes First If domestic violence has occurred, the family court (“Juzgado… Read More 🇪🇸 DIVORCE IN SPAIN INVOLVING DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

Legal ethics, criminal law, and civil protection

Someone using an aggressive lawyer to make threats or engage in illegal behaviour in Spain — can be serious. While lawyers are supposed to advocate for their clients, there are limits: legal ethics, criminal law, and civil protections. Here’s a detailed breakdown: 1. What counts as illegal or abusive behaviour through a lawyer ⚠ Important: The law distinguishes aggressive… Read More Legal ethics, criminal law, and civil protection

Protection and Support for Women in Spain

Emergency Contacts Service Phone Notes Emergency Services 112 Police, ambulance, urgent help (all emergencies) National Gender Violence Helpline 016 Free, confidential, anonymous. No trace on phone bill. Available 24/7 Teléfono de la Esperanza 717 003 717 Emotional support and crisis counselling Legal Protections Support Services Immediate Steps if Threatened or Abused How They Support You… Read More Protection and Support for Women in Spain