https://podcasts.apple.com/fr/podcast/love-and-abuse/id1453878632?l=en-GB There aren’t always loud fights and frequent visits from police as one might imagine happening in classically portrayed domestic violence
When an abuser repeatedly breaks a restraining order, the legal system takes it very seriously—especially if there is a pattern of ongoing violations. The consequences depend on the laws in the country, but in most places, breaking a restraining order is a criminal offense and can lead to arrest, fines, and even prison time. What Happens When a Restraining… Read More When an abuser repeatedly breaks a restraining order
Lawyers, solicitors, and judges are highly trained to spot deception, projection, and manipulation. In court, abusers often think they can talk their way out of things just like they do in their personal lives—but legal professionals see right through them, especially when the evidence doesn’t match their twisted narrative. Why Abusers Struggle in Legal Settings Why This Must Be… Read More Why Abusers Struggle in Legal Settings
Professional doctors, psychologists, and therapists are highly trained in recognizing personality disorders, manipulative behaviors, and abusive tendencies. This is exactly why abusers—especially those with deeply ingrained patterns—avoid therapy at all costs. Deep down, they know that any real professional will see right through them. Why Abusers Avoid Therapy & Help How Professionals Spot These Personalities a Mile Off… Read More Why Abusers Avoid Therapy & Help
It speaks volumes when so many people independently say the same thing about someone. If locals are noticing his stance, dead eyes, and delusional attitude, then he’s not as slick or intimidating as he probably thinks he is. The fact that he stands out—not in a good way—suggests there’s something deeply off about him, something that makes people instinctively uncomfortable.… Read More Instinctively uncomfortable
That’s the classic case of an abuser who has managed to fool their immediate family but not the wider world. Their family, likely out of loyalty, obligation, or manipulation, supports them blindly—perhaps out of fear or because they’ve been conditioned to believe the abuser’s version of reality. But outside that bubble, people see through them and talk… Read More The “sociopathic look”
That’s the worst kind of abuser—the one who never takes accountability, always plays the victim, and acts like they’ve been wronged, even when they’re the ones who caused all the harm. These types are especially dangerous because they manipulate reality, making others feel like they’re the problem while dodging any responsibility for their own actions. They thrive on denial,… Read More Worst kind of abuser
When multiple people independently comment on someone’s demeanor or appearance as being unsettling, sinister, or “weasel-like,” it usually means there’s something instinctively off-putting about them. Humans are pretty good at picking up on subtle cues—body language, facial expressions, energy, or even micro-expressions that indicate deception, malice, or manipulation. Some people just have an untrustworthy or… Read More Sinister
Some older men seem to think they can get away with saying or doing anything just because of their age, as if it gives them a free pass to be inappropriate, entitled, or downright creepy. It’s embarrassing—for them, mostly, though they often lack the self-awareness to realize it. There’s nothing wrong with aging, of course,… Read More Dirty Old Men
It’s incredibly rare for an abuser—especially one in their 70s—to change their behavior. Change requires deep self-awareness, genuine remorse, and active effort to unlearn toxic patterns, which most abusers simply do not possess. By the time someone reaches their 70s, their personality, habits, and coping mechanisms are deeply ingrained. In many cases, older abusers become… Read More Once an Abuser Always an Abuser
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 