Let’s get one thing straight: if you are not married, not in a committed relationship, not living with someone, then yes — you are single. You may be separated, you may still be healing, but legally, emotionally, and practically, unless you are actively partnered, you are available. And it matters — because too many people are living in a grey… Read More Dating Is Not a Relationship — And Separation Is Not a Marriage
There are still far too many harmful myths floating around about domestic abuse.That it only happens in a certain kind of household.That “people like us” — with education, careers, status — are somehow immune.That victims must have provoked it.That it’s a private issue, best kept behind closed doors. But let’s be honest — abuse doesn’t… Read More Domestic Abuse Doesn’t Look How You Think It Does
One of the greatest gifts in healing?A brilliant therapist who helps you untangle the chaos, sit with the truth, and finally, finally see things clearly. Not the version you wanted to believe.Not the version you had to accept to survive.But the truth — raw, honest, liberating. You begin to connect the dots.You feel what was once numb.You… Read More The Power of a Great Therapist (and an Honest Conversation With Yourself)
If It’s Not a Relationship… Then What Is It?!(And no, it’s not “dating” either — let’s be honest.) Let’s cut through the confusion.If you’re constantly questioning whether you’re in a relationship — chances are, you’re not.Because when someone truly wants to be with you, you won’t need to decode, overthink, or justify their behaviour. So ask yourself honestly:… Read More Spot the difference
Love, Lies & Somewhere to Stay: Beware the Professional Stopover(Yes, they’re out there — and yes, they know exactly what they’re doing.) Let’s call it what it is:There are people out there — men and women — not looking for love, connection, or a true partnership.They’re looking for a roof.A rescue mission.A financial upgrade.A soft place to land while they… Read More Emotional Fraud
Let’s talk about freeloaders — not just the ones who raid your fridge, but the ones who raid your life, your energy, your time, and yes… your home. A freeloader isn’t always easy to spot at first. They can be charming, attentive, even convincing. They talk about a “future” while quietly living off your present — emotionally, physically, financially.… Read More Are They in Love With You — or Just Looking for a Place to Stay?(aka: The Freeloader Explained)
The wrong man will watch you carry the emotional load, the mental weight, the financial burden — and then clap for you like you’re some kind of superhero.He’ll say, “You’re so strong”…without ever questioning why you had to be. He’ll expect your softness while leaving you stuck in survival mode.He’ll praise your loyalty while giving… Read More The Wrong Man Will Drain You — and Call It Love(You’ll need a therapist just to recover from the “romance”)
Just because you’re healingJust because you’ve chosen peace over chaosJust because you’ve stopped reacting and started responding —Doesn’t mean you’ve gone soft. It means you’ve got clarity now.It means the fog has lifted.It means you’ve got professionals in your corner — therapists, legal advocates, doctors, mentors — who validate your truth and support your strength.… Read More Healing Doesn’t Mean You’ve Gone Soft Let’s be clear.
Don’t expect kindness.Don’t expect fairness.Don’t expect change — especially not during a divorce — from someone who’s spent decades trying to control, diminish, and destroy you. When someone tries to strangle you, break your arm, trap you financially, gaslight you emotionally, humiliate you in front of others —that’s not a “bad patch” or “temper.”That’s abuse.Repeated, calculated,… Read More Once an Abuser, Always an Abuser(Say it again if you need to.)
Give generously, but know where your boundaries are —You’re not here to be drained. Love deeply, but protect the heart you’ve spent a lifetime healing —Not everyone deserves access to your tenderness. Trust, yes — but with eyes open.Wisdom doesn’t mean shutting down; it means knowing who’s safe. Listen with compassion, but don’t silence your… Read More Protect Yourself
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 