🔹 1. Time + emotional distance

Ask yourself:

• Has it been at least several months (not weeks) since separation?
• Do they speak about it calmly, not emotionally charged?

👉 Ready people have neutrality, not raw emotion.

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🔹 2. They take responsibility (no blame story)

Listen to how they describe the past:

• ❌ “My ex was crazy / it was all their fault”
• ❌ Constant bitterness or anger
• ✅ “It didn’t work out, we both contributed”

👉 Readiness = emotional ownership

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🔹 3. Their life is stable again

Check for signs like:

• settled living situation
• routine in place
• not constantly “in transition”
• no ongoing chaos (legal battles, constant drama)

👉 If life is still unstable, they usually are too

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🔹 4. They are consistent with YOU

This is the biggest one:

• consistent contact
• consistent plans
• effort doesn’t spike and drop

👉 Ready people are steady, not intense then absent

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🔹 5. They can move things forward slowly but clearly

• They don’t rush into intensity
• But they also don’t stall indefinitely
• You see gradual progression (more time together, integration into life)

👉 Readiness = direction + pace

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🚩 Big red flags they are NOT ready

• “I’m not over it yet, but…”
• Hot/cold behaviour
• Emotional dependency on you early
• Avoiding defining anything long-term
• You feel confused more than secure

👉 Confusion = not ready

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💡 The simplest rule

Ask yourself:

“Do I feel calm and secure… or uncertain and on edge?”

• Calm + steady → likely ready
• Anxious + unclear → likely not ready

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🔴 Key truth

Someone can:

• like you
• be attracted to you
• enjoy your company

…and still not be emotionally available for a relationship

👉 Readiness is about capacity, not chemistry