When someone has a track record of abuse — physical, financial, and emotional — mixed with lies and accusations to cover their tracks, listen. Don’t minimise it. Don’t explain it away.

Patterns matter. History matters. Evidence matters.

Have strong boundaries. Do your homework. Ask questions. Pay attention to what doesn’t add up.

I ignored every single warning sign because I wanted to believe I had finally found someone different. Instead, I moved from one emotionally abusive marriage straight into another, without giving myself the space or time to heal.

That wasn’t weakness — it was unhealed trauma.

I know differently now.
And knowing differently changes everything.