Once long-term abuse is recognised, it cannot be undone or fully understood.
Decades of coercion, control, and cruelty are embedded in patterns, memory, and psychological impact.
They are not a misunderstanding, a miscommunication, or a temporary lapse — they are systematic and enduring.

The recognition itself is transformative: it shifts perception from denial to clarity, but it also brings the stark reality that the damage done is permanent in experience, even if recovery and boundaries are possible.

You cannot “erase” decades of abuse; you can only acknowledge it, protect yourself, and rebuild autonomy.